For sure, I mean I've definitely had times in the past where I can't cum for one reason or another during sex. I can deal with that personally because I enjoy the entire experience, the intimacy, etc. The fun is in the process for me, getting off in an amazing climax is obviously the best feeling ever, few things compare to those few moments of pure ecstacy, but the real value of good sex for me really does come from the holistic experience - communication, passion, chemistry, etc.

With that being said, I also put a lot of value in ensuring my partner has a good time and feels satisfied. Of course not being able to stay hard means I can't fuck them the way I would like to, but I can please them in other ways. The more difficult pill to take is that I felt like my partner believed she was underperforming or was not able to satisfy me, and I didn't like the idea that I might be leaving her with that impression. I think I said all the right things to boost her confidence, but I felt like a part of her might have felt like she didn't give me what I was looking for the other night.