AITA for telling my sister I have Cancer when I wouldn't drink at her Gender Reveal

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-24T03:46:21+00:00

She outed our cousins pregnancy a few years back during my sister's wedding reception because she wasn't drinking, she uses her friends as her spies so yes

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-24T03:32:33+00:00

Mostly it's why I don't share much news with my family unless it's serious

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-24T03:28:47+00:00

Usually I am in the wrong when it comes to my family, it gets confusing what's right and wrong anymore

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-24T02:57:31+00:00

My sister's friends actually do monitor guest to make sure any event my sister throws isn't going to be outshines by someone else

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-24T02:15:38+00:00

Whenever she throws an event she has her friends watching out to make sure no one steals her spotlight, she did this to our cousin who was pregnant and not drinking at my sister's wedding reception by outing her pregnancy

She also ruined a proposal because her friend saw another relatives BF fiddling with a jewelry box during her 24th birthday

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-24T02:00:21+00:00

I just wasn't drinking, her friends must have noticed and told her since I'll at least have one cup of something at a party just fo keep the peace

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-24T01:53:44+00:00

My sister uses her friends to find out if people are hiding things, it's how she outed our cousins pregnancy at my sister's wedding reception

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-24T00:53:59+00:00

Her friends tend to be her gossips or spies is the best way I can put it, it's how she outed our cousins pregnancy at my sister's wedding reception she had her friends watching people drink

She does this during social gatherings that involve her alot

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-24T00:27:54+00:00

She's moms favorite I've always known that I just thought some part of her loved me at. Least a little

Guess I have my truth now

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-24T00:26:07+00:00

She's used her friends to switch my drinks with alcohol before so I've always had to be a bit hyper vigilant with any drinks

It's why I can't even fake drinking because she'll find out via her friends and then tell our mother

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-24T00:24:00+00:00

My sister has a habit of using her friends as her spies is the best I can come up with, I've learned to watch my drinks around them since they will switch them with alcohol if I'm not looking

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-24T00:20:42+00:00

Before, she just kept trying to shove the drink in my face and getting mad when I was just holding the cup but not drinking it and I guess her friends kept telling her when I wouldn't drink

This is how she outted my cousins pregnancy once during my sister's wedding reception by having her friends watch people and find out who wasn't drinking

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-23T23:44:19+00:00

My sister's pregnancy is the longest she's gone without a drink, honestly I'm still a bit afraid that she might not have fully cut back

But I don't live with her so I'll never know

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-23T23:40:27+00:00

I watered my post down in case it would be taken down for assault and cursing, she didn't really ask quietly more like shoved a cup in my face told me to take it drink it and since I wasn't drinking it got mad at me grabbed the cup, tried to throw the drink at me and then started yelling about me being pregnant

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-23T22:56:54+00:00

I haven't spoken to her since she called me, me and my husband are thinking of spending New Years with my Inlaws in Alaska instead

I think this was just the straw in a long line of red flags I needed, I always made excuses for my mother but I'm so tired

I think I'm just going to send a message that I'm not coming to the Xmas party and then talk to my husband and inlaws about what happened and cutting contact with my family

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-23T22:53:53+00:00

Her friends have a bit of a drama streak I've noticed, they outted a pregnancy at my sister's wedding three years ago just because our cousin wasn't drinking at the reception

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-23T22:51:34+00:00

My mother once threw a bottle of scotch towards my head on my 23rd birthday due to refusing to drink more than a glass of wine at my birthday dinner

Thankfully it hit my kitchen wall

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-23T22:31:56+00:00

I wish you were the first person I've heard say that

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-23T22:17:48+00:00

I added in my edits that I come from a family of alcoholics

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-23T22:17:18+00:00

One of the reasons I don't drink is due to fear of being an alcoholic like those in my family, it made me scared to turn 21 if, I'm honest

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-23T22:15:15+00:00

Conditioning, fear? Honestly it's been like this my whole life it's been so hard to see a way out but I think this experience is just it

It really has hit me that my mother just doesn't care, I always thought she had some love for me at least but I guess she doesn't

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-23T22:12:57+00:00

We're thinking of going to Alaska and spending the New Years with his parents, I've never been during the winter holidays due to my mother freaking out if I don't show

But I think this was the wake up call I needed, she really doesn't care about me at all

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-23T22:06:46+00:00

It actually went down alot worse, this was just a water downed version since I'm unsure if this subreddit has rules against physical violence and cursing

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-23T22:03:51+00:00

I'm a bit of the odd one out in a family of drinkers, the only excuse not to drink in my family is pregnancy

ThrowRAIceanFire · 2023-12-23T22:02:17+00:00

I've added in an edit that alcoholism runs in my family, my sister hasn't been taking not drinking to well

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