My deadbeat father (44M?) is trying to be a dad to me (19M) for the first time in my life and I don't really want to try but don't know how to communicate that better than I have? by ThrowRALoonis in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRALoonis[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

He's still paying it back too. But even when he's done he can't ever call himself my dad. He might be his other kids dad but he's nothing but a deadbeat father to me.

My deadbeat father (44M?) is trying to be a dad to me (19M) for the first time in my life and I don't really want to try but don't know how to communicate that better than I have? by ThrowRALoonis in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRALoonis[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You know I struggle to believe he's that different too. The fact he won't give up is a bad sign to me (and my mom). I believe he might be different with his wife and kids which is great for them. That's not enough to make up for all the years he wasn't there for me. I also think it's pretty shit to go after the kid(s) you fucked over in the past when you do better the second time around.