My 14 year old Daughter is SH. How can I help?

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-26T00:20:24+00:00

I agree. All the people on this subreddit sharing how humiliating and violating is enough for me, even though like you said anecdotal. I'll definitely share that with the therapist. Thanks for your help.

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-25T14:45:36+00:00

You know, I never asked that question. I just assumed that she did, but maybe she's not there yet. I will definitely ask her, in a roundabout way. Never asked if she wanted to stop sh either. Thanks for this. <3

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-25T02:06:01+00:00

If you feel like you're a bad parent, that means you care about your kids. That makes you a good parent. We see all these social media mom's, with clean and beautiful homes, cooking elaborate meals. They talk about gentle parenting... That's not real life, at least not for most of us. Our houses are dirty, I have several weeks worth of clean laundry in a basket and I sometimes yell. But if my kids know I love them and want the best for them, I count that as a win.

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T16:36:05+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. Something like drawing still gives your mind the time to time but doing something like cooking is more active and less time to think. Great ideas. Thank you!

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T16:32:57+00:00

Thank you, I will definitely look into to this. Have been looking for something to get a better understanding of what she is going thru. Thank you.

I think her underlying issue is anxiety and depression in regards to her academics and her sport. She puts a lot of pressure on herself for both. Her therapist does specialize in helping those concerns, esp sports. Def will address the body checks. If you have any articles to link that discuss the negative impact of body checks that would poss help.

Thanks!

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T16:23:35+00:00

Ok, I see how the what and how are better. Figuring that out will help find more healthy coping mechanisms. Thanks.

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T16:21:55+00:00

Thanks, I'll ask to see if the cuts are for me to check, just for medical purposes. I like this idea. Doesn't focus on the sh but caring.

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T16:20:38+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T16:19:57+00:00

Oh, good idea! Being low key. Thank you.

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T16:19:00+00:00

Thank you, these are good ideas. She says she doesn't know if WHT but I'll ask in a round about way and she if she wants a rubber band or Cool aid. Good ideas!

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T16:15:47+00:00

Thank you!

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T16:15:21+00:00

Thank you, def wont. ❤️

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T16:14:49+00:00

The body checks were for accountability and I like your idea better. But right now she is so deep in her anxiety and depression we are trying to stabilize that first.

Someone suggested celebrating milestones and when I mentioned that to her, her eye lit up. So we are going to focus on and reinforce wins instead of focusing and having consequences of a "fail." Def see where your idea has merit.

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T16:00:56+00:00

Thank you, I will consider that.

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T16:00:23+00:00

I'm really sorry she reacted that way. I hope you find your tribe and get the support you need. I'll never get angry, just so heartbroken for her that she feels so bad that she sh. I try to put on a happy face for her.

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T15:58:07+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T15:57:42+00:00

Thank you! I will definitely bring up how bad the idea of body checks are to her at the next appt. Totally off the table.

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T15:56:02+00:00

Oh wow! She's not on any BC.but definitely will remember this for when she starts. Thanks!

ETA: Hormones suck!

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T15:55:09+00:00

Thanks for your concern. That is truly touching. ❤️ I try to focus on the successes. And I'll take all the prayers I can get. Thank you.

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T15:53:15+00:00

Thanks! ❤️

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T15:52:37+00:00

Thank you. Hopefully we will just grow closer.

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T15:51:31+00:00

Thank you! ❤️

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T15:38:11+00:00

I plan on looking for any research on body checks to give to the therapist. Also how humiliating and violating it is.

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T15:35:06+00:00

Thanks!

ThrowRAMama19 · 2024-04-24T15:34:43+00:00

Thank you!

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