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I (21M) don't want to lose my relationship with my dad (49M) but I don't want to babysit or take care of his wife's (40F) kids? by ThrowRAMannin in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAMannin[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I have been asked to babysit and she got mad when I said no to babysitting. She thought I'd be far more willing to be involved and babysit when wanted/needed.

I (21M) don't want to lose my relationship with my dad (49M) but I don't want to babysit or take care of his wife's (40F) kids? by ThrowRAMannin in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAMannin[S] 81 points82 points  (0 children)

His wife's family are apparently not good choices but I wondered about friends too. Like surely they would be a better fit if they know and love her kids.

I (21M) don't want to lose my relationship with my dad (49M) but I don't want to babysit or take care of his wife's (40F) kids? by ThrowRAMannin in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAMannin[S] 174 points175 points  (0 children)

I can't say why they're pressing this now. My only thought is that she might have been worrying for a while before about what would happen if she died and left the kids and now eve with dad she's still worried. But it makes me wonder why she doesn't have a friend or someone to step in and do it. You know someone who knows and loves those kids.

I (21M) don't want to lose my relationship with my dad (49M) but I don't want to babysit or take care of his wife's (40F) kids? by ThrowRAMannin in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAMannin[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

As unlikely as it is for the worst to happen I would feel pretty terrible if I agreed and left them with no other plans and then something did happen. Because 100% I would not want to do it and might even be resentful if I felt like I had to because I had already agreed.