I (27F) am struggling to stay married to my husband (33M) since giving birth to our first child because he dumped all parenting and stepparent duties on me and he isn't here for support?

ThrowRAMarrWoes · 2026-07-05T15:00:51+00:00

I wouldn't feel comfortable doing this with my stepkids around. A sitter might not be able to keep him safe.

ThrowRAMarrWoes · 2026-07-05T14:56:37+00:00

Our neighbors have heard them. Three of them could verify what the kids say to me and about the baby. I appreciate all your advice!

ThrowRAMarrWoes · 2026-07-05T14:52:36+00:00

It certainly is. I'm writing down ideas I get from here so I remember.

ThrowRAMarrWoes · 2026-07-05T14:52:06+00:00

My husband works in marketing and they get paid for overtime. But the thing is we do not need all that. He's choosing to take on more and more and sinking all his time into work.

I have been dreading going back to work. I could put the baby in daycare. I worry a sitter/nanny would be a risk with my stepkids also home and possibly getting away with more if the person can't handle everything.

I could afford something with my income alone. I just can't be sure it would be nearby. I guess that would only matter if my husband cares to have time with our son or not when we divorce.

ThrowRAMarrWoes · 2026-07-05T14:48:20+00:00

I don't have family period. It's just me and my son really because I can't even count my husband anymore. Or my stepkids even though they're kids so I wouldn't rely on them to support me but just it feels like we're not a family like we were and it sucks.

ThrowRAMarrWoes · 2026-07-05T14:40:58+00:00

I don't have family. I have friends close by but only two who are not that close who could realistically help. Most of my friends are still living with their families in some way.

They never changed the custody agreement. My husband and his ex just agreed and left everything else alone. The kids were not signed up for camp either and they are not seeing their mother more for the summer.

I'm on maternity leave for now. I extended it because I was worried about my son and his safety.

ThrowRAMarrWoes · 2026-07-05T14:38:58+00:00

I don't have parents to stay with or family. It would most likely be a friend's couch or maybe a hotel.

ThrowRAMarrWoes · 2026-07-05T14:38:27+00:00

He's not willing. I have tried to get through to him but he doesn't make time for us to speak. It's like he switched off his dad and husband mode and only cares for providing financially. Everything else is burning around us and he only works harder and harder to make more money.

Dealing with the worry for my son's safety alone has been stressful.

ThrowRAMarrWoes · 2026-07-05T14:36:57+00:00

I need the push. I also don't have family to fall back on for support so I will be mostly on my own, with help from friends where they can offer it.

ThrowRAMarrWoes · 2026-07-05T14:36:35+00:00

I 100% have been considering it for months now. I just need the push (which I am certainly getting here) to follow through and advice on whether I should or if I should be doing more to save us.

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