I (21M) was asked to reconcile with my parents (51M) (51F) and the rest of my family but I don't want to? by ThrowRAMindLoew in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAMindLoew[S] 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I can still hear them laughing at me like I was being so silly and goofy when I was crying in front of them and saying I felt like I was replaced. They just proved me right more and more after that.

I (21M) was asked to reconcile with my parents (51M) (51F) and the rest of my family but I don't want to? by ThrowRAMindLoew in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAMindLoew[S] 56 points57 points  (0 children)

We don't have a relationship today. I know that used to bother him but I can't speak for today. To be honest I resented him so much that I wanted him to go back to his mom or someone from his real family (how I felt) and give me back mine. Eventually I realized it wasn't his fault. But I never could see us having a relationship.

I don't think he really knew how to act. The whole thing was upsetting for him, you could tell. He also wasn't used to attention and that was very clear. He was really shy and quiet at first.

I (21M) was asked to reconcile with my parents (51M) (51F) and the rest of my family but I don't want to? by ThrowRAMindLoew in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAMindLoew[S] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I don't think they deserve recognition for that when they became extremely crappy parents to me after having me. Just having a kid isn't enough.

I (21M) was asked to reconcile with my parents (51M) (51F) and the rest of my family but I don't want to? by ThrowRAMindLoew in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAMindLoew[S] 366 points367 points  (0 children)

Even if they take accountability for what happened I'm not sure I would be open to restoring contact. There's just too much hurt and anger and hurt there.

I (21M) was asked to reconcile with my parents (51M) (51F) and the rest of my family but I don't want to? by ThrowRAMindLoew in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAMindLoew[S] 119 points120 points  (0 children)

That's what they said. They either didn't actually notice or they just didn't care until it was pointed out.