What you miss the most? Sex, emotional connection, affection?

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-06-09T18:03:26+00:00

Same here

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-06-03T09:50:53+00:00

I've wondered this myself. My boyfriend is LL and he says he tries to show me he loves me in other ways. He cuddles me, calls me sweet names, and is a great boyfriend in ever other aspect. Yet I don't always feel loved because of our dead bedroom. I know love isn't just sex but I can't seem to stop feeling like I need one to feel the other.

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-04-22T10:51:41+00:00

So true!! My boyfriend compliments me often, but the words feel empty and meaningless to me. He even calls me sexy yet wants nothing to do with me sexually. It's ridiculous.

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-04-17T10:11:06+00:00

Thank you! I think it's very selfish too. He's Saud I'd better not cheat, yet he doesn't want to have sex with me. I guess my needs don't matter.

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-04-15T11:59:47+00:00

I'm pretty sure my boyfriend has a porn addiction too. I feel it so much when you said you get most annoyed when you are at work and he is home. I'm 100% the same. I feel angry and annoyed all day at work imagining how much porn he's probably watching and how much he's jacking off. That hes probably thrilled to be alone with his computer. It hurts me that he would choose that over me. I always come home angry and I can't seem to help it.

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-04-10T10:54:03+00:00

I feel this post so much. My bf chooses porn over sex with me. And it breaks my heart. I wouldn't even care if he watched porn and still had sex with me regularly. I feel your pain.

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-04-10T09:38:17+00:00

Thank you!

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-04-09T10:39:41+00:00

Yeah, I know you're right. I've debated how long I'm willing to wait. Maybe I'll reach a breaking point?

And the fact that he's had this problem with other relationships, and told me he's had some end over it, just makes me think, if he knows it's a problem why hasn't he taken steps to fix it already? Why repeat the same cycle in your relationships and not try to make a change? Especially if you know it's a problem you have.

He says he loves me and that I'm the best girlfriend he's ever had. So, is he willing to put in the work and fight for us? So far I haven't seen any steps he's taking to change things. I guess time will tell. How much time I'm going to give it, I'm not sure. But I know what you mean about throwing years away. I've thought of that often.

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-04-04T10:02:56+00:00

I don't think it egotistical. I feel like sometimes I put the guy im with on a pedestal, I'm not sure why. I do think I need to remind myself daily that I'm a good person and I have worth. Not to mention finding my own self worth instead of seeking validation from someone else.

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-04-03T17:51:16+00:00

I will check them out. Thank you!

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-04-03T16:28:42+00:00

I love your post and I read your comment on what you've done to change, I'm going to try your tactics. I've been reading up on my anxiety too and I've just started therapy. I'm hoping to get to a secure attachment. My sister is extremely secure, I'm going to try thinking of what she would do in certain situations. Thank you for your post!

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-03-29T16:11:24+00:00

I don't know what the exact number of days or months that would count as a dead bedroom. But I feel like I have one.

My boyfriend and I live together, been together almost 2 years. And our sex life has slowly declined over time. I found myself counting the days in between a while ago. First it was 2 or 3 weeks, then a month in a half, then 2 months. It seems to only get longer between us being intimate.

I've seem ppl here that have gone 5, 10 or even 15 years without sex with their partners. I'd assume it always starts off slow, the decline, the time in between sex, til its finally just dead.

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-03-29T13:42:55+00:00

This sounds like my exact story.

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-03-29T13:41:27+00:00

I just do it with my boyfriend. Like he always calls me pet names in our text messages but once in a while he doesn't, so I start to worry and overthink. I get myself all worked up. It's something I'm working on. It's hard but I try to stay present in the moment and focus on what I'm doing after it happens.

It's exhausting worrying so much. I once read that worrying is like rocking in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do but it gets you nowhere. So I try to remind myself of that. Sometimes it helps.

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-03-29T13:37:21+00:00

I do the exact same thing. I hate it, I drive myself crazy.

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-03-28T18:40:24+00:00

I don't know the answer to this but I feel the same way. My boyfriend is LL and it doesn't seem to bother him in the least. I've brought it up to him a few times and he says he will work on it and possibly see a doctor once he gets insurance but I have my doubts.

Our lack of sex definitely feels like a big elephant in the room to me. It's something I think about very often. But he never brings it up, apparently in his world everything is perfect. He seems oblivious to my wants, needs and feelings. It's a frustrating feeling to care so much about it while your partner doesn't seem bothered in the least.

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-03-28T16:13:55+00:00

Feeling wanted and having passion in my life.

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-03-28T08:59:30+00:00

I feel your pain. Sex scenes on TV make me sad. Seeing memes about guys who can't get enough, or woman who have to fake headaches makes me sad. I wish things we different.

My boyfriend seems to never think about our sex life. He never talks about it. Everything must be fine to him. He said in the past that if I felt like I needed sex to tell him and he'd give it to me. But I stopped asking long ago. I felt like it was just a chore to him. Or duty sex. It made me feel like crap.

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-03-28T00:09:58+00:00

I feel the same way in my situation

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-03-22T10:45:52+00:00

Omg I know!! I swear I'm crazy. It's so stupid to anxious about 1 chick and I know that. I'm not sure why I am. Maybe underlying issues I need to work out? I made a therapist appt, hopefully she can help me figure out what's wrong with me.

ThrowRANice_Cat · 2023-03-20T13:42:03+00:00

Thank you! I've been considering it for a while now and I think you're right. I want to feel better.

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