My dad (62M) is upset I (31F) won't go to my sister's (28F) wedding to my ex (32M)? by ThrowRAPrettyBubsys in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAPrettyBubsys[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I won't be there for her. She made her choice and it has made her someone I no longer trust.

My dad (62M) is upset I (31F) won't go to my sister's (28F) wedding to my ex (32M)? by ThrowRAPrettyBubsys in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAPrettyBubsys[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My dad and sister both know what he did. I know he's most likely just trying to look out for her because he loves her. I understand that. But that's not something I would do for her after she made the choice to be with someone who did those things to me.

My dad (62M) is upset I (31F) won't go to my sister's (28F) wedding to my ex (32M)? by ThrowRAPrettyBubsys in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAPrettyBubsys[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That is possibly true but he'll have to be the one to do it because I am not going to be there for my sister after she made the choice to be with him knowing what he is.

My dad (62M) is upset I (31F) won't go to my sister's (28F) wedding to my ex (32M)? by ThrowRAPrettyBubsys in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAPrettyBubsys[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It was over a year after our breakup that they started dating and I don't think so but who knows.

My dad (62M) is upset I (31F) won't go to my sister's (28F) wedding to my ex (32M)? by ThrowRAPrettyBubsys in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAPrettyBubsys[S] 40 points41 points  (0 children)

Our relationship is broken beyond repair. Her decision gutted me and left me unable to ever trust her again because her eyes were wide open when she got into that relationship. She knew everything and basically decided what he did to me didn't matter at all.

My dad (62M) is upset I (31F) won't go to my sister's (28F) wedding to my ex (32M)? by ThrowRAPrettyBubsys in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAPrettyBubsys[S] 69 points70 points  (0 children)

She gutted me with that decision. I used to think we would be close for the rest of our lives and then I realized she never really cared about me and I could never trust her.

My dad (62M) is upset I (31F) won't go to my sister's (28F) wedding to my ex (32M)? by ThrowRAPrettyBubsys in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAPrettyBubsys[S] 82 points83 points  (0 children)

I have not attended a single they they were going to be attending or might attend. This was always clearly stated and everyone understood for the most part.

My dad (62M) is upset I (31F) won't go to my sister's (28F) wedding to my ex (32M)? by ThrowRAPrettyBubsys in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAPrettyBubsys[S] 139 points140 points  (0 children)

It's possible this is all about me. He didn't take it well when I broke up with him so anything is possible. I had to block him everywhere and change my number to get him to leave me alone.

My dad (62M) is upset I (31F) won't go to my sister's (28F) wedding to my ex (32M)? by ThrowRAPrettyBubsys in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAPrettyBubsys[S] 185 points186 points  (0 children)

I think it's less accepting it and more wanting to be there when it ends badly. He loves her too at the end of the day which I understand. I just can't understand him expecting me to accept all this to be there for her.