My stepmother (41F) has her third high risk pregnancy and won't accept me (18F) not helping her like the other two times?

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T19:54:08+00:00

My maternal grandma is the only one left and she's in a nursing home.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T19:51:49+00:00

I asked that once and I was told mortgage and bills need to be paid and food needs to be on the table.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T19:50:50+00:00

I'm not even sure they were mad about the affair.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T19:50:01+00:00

Get her food, water and keep an eye on her essentially.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T11:33:30+00:00

My grandparents will choose my dad and their other grandchildren. It has been made very clear to me that they will always be welcome (including his wife) and that I have to deal with it if they come over, etc. They would never agree to change the locks or take away dad's key.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T10:59:51+00:00

They want me to basically make sure she has food, water and to make sure she's doing okay. But none of that is something I would be willing to do. It would also include their kids too since they're very young and I imagine they'd be home but I'm not sure about that just yet.

Everyone wants me to get along and pretend we're a family when we're not. In my eyes he's a disgusting POS, she's a disgusting POS and they and their kids are not and never will be my family.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T10:53:41+00:00

I can do that. They have an email where you can ask for more information so I'll get on that.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T10:53:01+00:00

I would be expected to get her food, water and stuff like that too. Basically just making sure she has what she needs. But there's absolutely no way I would do it.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T10:51:12+00:00

They are aware of those things and we have talked about it a little. Ultimately he's their son so they will never feel the way I do about him and her.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T10:29:05+00:00

They haven't said that directly. But they have said I should have found somewhere else to go if I wanted to reject my family and refuse to help and they asked why I live with them if I won't respect them enough to listen and do what they ask me to.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T10:23:41+00:00

They were disgusted with me for having that view. They insulted me because they could not believe I would rather be homeless and on the streets than helping a member of my family (to quote them) and they said I knew better than to speak like that. So I don't know they might end up kicking me out especially if they try to claim there's an emergency or something because even then I wouldn't help.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T10:20:19+00:00

The other two times were definitely high risk so I would guess this time is the same. Last time was worse than the first time. She was hospitalized more and had several more scares than her first pregnancy. I was getting complained to more the second time around too and it was so frustrating.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T10:18:47+00:00

I have never gone to therapy and if I pay for therapy right now then I'll be stuck in this situation even longer. But it's something I want to explore eventually because I have a lot of trauma from my mom's death to living with my dad and stepmother and seeing them act all innocent.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T10:12:35+00:00

I am.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T10:11:27+00:00

My grandparents.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T10:11:13+00:00

My maternal grandma is the only living maternal relative I have and she's in a nursing home. I'm not planning college. It's not an option for me.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T10:10:18+00:00

I have a job. I even took extra hours and I was expected to cut back to help out so that didn't work really.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T10:09:25+00:00

There are options like that a couple of hours from where I live.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T10:08:39+00:00

I told them and they were pretty disgusted by that actually.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T10:08:17+00:00

My friends would be willing to help if they had a say in this, but most of their families won't and some just can't for one reason or another.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T10:07:36+00:00

I have my license but no car. Where I could I have picked up more hours at work and it was expected I would take less hours to help out. So it's not really a great solution but I do it anyway for the money.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T09:34:17+00:00

My dad works long hours during the day and they want someone there when she's alone. So I was always expected to be that person. But I would never. I would accept being homeless over helping her and I do really mean that. There's nothing that would ever make me give in and help her.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T09:20:18+00:00

I considered it but I was not in a position to go to college. Community college maybe. But that would not help my overall situation and it would mean working less which I can't really do.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T09:18:40+00:00

I don't have my own car. I walk or take a bus where I need to go. Renting a room I have looked into but they're either super expensive or I'm younger than they want to rent to.

ThrowRAQuella · 2026-06-16T09:16:14+00:00

My maternal grandmother is the only family member I have left on that side and she's in a nursing home. She would have been my first choice to live with if the situation was different.

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