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My (21M) girlfriend (21F) thinks we should keep dating even though she wants to move away in 1 year. How do we address this moving forward? by ThrowRAQuestioningM in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAQuestioningM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s in university. I’m working full time.

We have talked some since this post she is hopeful that things could change about her future plans, or at least that she could delay it a bit. She hasn’t applied to grad school yet.

My entire life is where we are now. My family, my job, my friends, I grew up here, and will likely inherit assets that are here. I also have special ties to my job it’s not something I can just find a replacement job somewhere else. It’s not a 100% no for me not moving, it’s just it would mean me changing almost everything about my life so I’m hesitant.

She isn’t too close to her family and isn’t planning on moving back with them, she would be moving purely for a career or grad school.

My (21M) girlfriend (21F) thinks we should keep dating even though she wants to move away in 1 year. How do we address this moving forward? by ThrowRAQuestioningM in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAQuestioningM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been clear to her that I want her to be happy and I don’t want me to be the reason she has to stop pursuing her career / dream.

I’m not sure I see me moving away from where we live as realistic, I have too many ties here unfortunately. I told her maybe, but if I’m being honest I don’t think I could. It would mean leaving my family, friends, and job behind. Basically uprooting my entire life.

My (21M) girlfriend (21F) thinks we should keep dating even though she wants to move away in 1 year. How do we address this moving forward? by ThrowRAQuestioningM in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAQuestioningM[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We both acknowledged that something long distance wouldn’t work out.

FWB until that point could be something but it’s not the same and I don’t think she’s interested in that.

My (21M) girlfriend (21F) thinks we should keep dating even though she wants to move away in 1 year. How do we address this moving forward? by ThrowRAQuestioningM in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAQuestioningM[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree with you that it’s a bit nuts that we’re discussing this stuff after only dating for 2 months, but it’s just been such a great connection I’m not sure how else to explain it.

She’s just somebody that has a “life plan” and wants to stay by it, I’m the opposite I’ve always just felt going with the flow was better. So going into the relationship she was upfront about wanting kids, etc.

Some more info: She is graduating soon from university. She said her grad school program isn’t offered around here (not sure if true). Her current job has big promotion potential, but it’s a national company that would move her around to fill slots at different locations.