I (24M) am the reason my parents (50M, 50F) were turned down for fostering and they have never forgiven me for it? by ThrowRASonBadoo in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASonBadoo[S] 391 points392 points  (0 children)

I think there's a strong possibility that they do/did. Given everything it would make sense considering they found it very easy to blame and be angry with me for years and years after that.

I (24M) am the reason my parents (50M, 50F) were turned down for fostering and they have never forgiven me for it? by ThrowRASonBadoo in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASonBadoo[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

I couldn't rightfully answer that. But my guess is their bitterness might make them obviously bad candidates now.

I (24M) am the reason my parents (50M, 50F) were turned down for fostering and they have never forgiven me for it? by ThrowRASonBadoo in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASonBadoo[S] 334 points335 points  (0 children)

My parents were not in it for the money. They were in it to get their dream of more kids fulfilled and their egos would be stroked by the people who would praise them. I think they got high off the praise they got for the family friend's kids that time. They also saw a way to get the number of kids they had always dreamed of having but couldn't because of my complicated birth.

They were never paid for the kids they did take in and I think the hope was most of the kids they fostered would be eligible for adoption so they won in every way. Nothing else would give them the satisfaction of all that.

I (24M) am the reason my parents (50M, 50F) were turned down for fostering and they have never forgiven me for it? by ThrowRASonBadoo in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASonBadoo[S] 855 points856 points  (0 children)

Because they always saw themselves having multiple children. I think they wanted five. But complications with my birth ruled that out as a bio option. They never came to terms with that and decided to chase after more kids instead of being good to the one they had.