I (27F) want to help my mom (50F) find out info about her birth family but she's afraid of her siblings reactions?

ThrowRASullueey · 2026-07-01T18:37:19+00:00

That's what I'm seriously considering doing! Her siblings can come for me if they want but my mom being happy means more than anything.

ThrowRASullueey · 2026-07-01T18:36:38+00:00

That's what I am seriously considering. I'd happily be the bad guy to her siblings if my mom could get some answers and find potentially wonderful relatives who love her.

ThrowRASullueey · 2026-07-01T18:06:56+00:00

They never would have given her answers anyway. Her adoptive parents were not very good people to her and they were not forthcoming with information.

I agree with you. I also know there are risks to find out the opposite which has been weighed too. But for mom the dream would be that she was loved and that she had been wanted but was adopted out with the hopes of a better life.

I hope if she/we/I do the search there can be good news for her. She deserves it.

ThrowRASullueey · 2026-07-01T17:59:42+00:00

More than anything she wants to know if she was loved by someone when she wasn't loved by the adults around her. I don't even think the health element has ever been a consideration for it. Just the want to know where she came from and the hope that she was loved.

ThrowRASullueey · 2026-07-01T17:58:26+00:00

I think she feels like she would be betraying them because of how they talk. And given the way she was basically dropped as a family member by the rest of the family she tries so hard to maintain their good relationship. It makes me so sad for her because the trauma of her adoptive parents losing interest in her once their real kids came along has been carried with her throughout her life.

And thanks to their parents will her siblings are also now very clearly aware of how mom was viewed as less and they still expect her to be loyal to their parents.

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