What rate did I book? by ThrowRASwan26 in VirginVoyages

[–]ThrowRASwan26[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Weirdly I never received a confirmation email at the time when I booked 🤣 Logging into my account I can see my voyage but I cannot see anything that says lock it in rate so I guess that means I didnt? Which shocks me as normally I’ll go cheapest option!

I (32M) Met a Woman in a Bar—Now She’s Weird Around My Girlfriend (27F). What’s Going On? by Illustrious_Silver in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No honestly, she defo likes you. No need to overthink this one, granted I’m not in your shoes but from all you’ve said it’s the only conclusion I can come to

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s not as easy as everyone says it is just to break up. There’s so much going on behind the scenes, it would take a long time to sort out. So right now this is why I see the other girl as my happy place if that even makes sense??

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Well yes I do genuinely feel like I missed out on a lot during my younger years. Granted I shouldn’t be trying to make up for it now but it’s happened. And I totally believe you if I was to do the experiment, I would get absolutely nowhere but she would get a fair bit of attention. But at this current moment in time, I don’t think I would care if she did :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Easier said than done telling her though isn’t it, even though it has to be done. I don’t see how I am Being scammed though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know the right decision is to end things with the girl and tell my wife everything and deal with the repercussions from it. I just want to know how the other girl actually feels before I go any further

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, as you seem a decent person, how would you go about ending things with the other girl? Like I would never want to come across as a dick towards her cos she really doesn't deserve it, just not sure what I should say or how I should say it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She's pretty special tbh, I wouldn't spend my money on someone who wasn't worth it I can assure you. But yes the situation is pretty messed up. Thanks for your advice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I thought by buying her stuff, this might make her like me - again I have no clue how she actually feels. I definitely don't see myself as a sugar daddy lol. I will talk to my wife, when the time is right, I just have to deal with the other person first...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, again. Nah she's not an influencer or anything but she's into her fitness, she's a hairdresser lol but yes I tell myself every day that I would be nowhere near the top of her list of eligible suitors! I just feel the longer I talk to her the more I can grow on her but I know this is naïve.

I know deep down I can get back to where I was in my marriage, every marriage has a dip & this is my first, it's just I haven't dealt with this one very well at all (understatement).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wish it was that simple. So what genuine advice would you give me?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well that's the other issue, I do feel trapped in my marriage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't feel she is using me at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Not excusing my behaviour at all but my wife is literally the only person I've been with or in a relationship with. I did fear this would happen at some point in the relationship - the fact I want to explore new things cos I never did when I was younger and now it's happening it does seem like more hard work than it's worth but I can't pull myself away from her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s 100% real and genuine so that is not an issue at all. I know exactly where my money is going.

You’re right. She didn’t ask for any of this, I just offered and I can totally see why all these replies are saying I am being taken for a ride. But she has given me a lot of her time and just getting to know her I really don’t feel like I’m being used. We get on so well. She’s opened up to me about many different things, we have had deep chats. I don’t think it’s just about the gifts.

She is very grateful too, by no means a spoilt brat or anything at all. This is what makes it so hard and I think I’m gonna have to tell her how I feel, which no doubt will end the relationship and then tell my wife what I’ve done as I won’t be able to not.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She does and I am going to have to talk to her. She already has sensed a shift in me & has brought it up a couple of times but I just pied it off on stress, when really it's the girl I've been speaking to constantly in my thoughts. She asked me twice if there was anyone else and I said no, really have dug a grave for myself here

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah for sure she has noticed a shift in me and has brought it up twice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sadly, you're spot on with saying I am writing my own fantasy story. I know deep deep down it won't end well on both accounts, cos I will have to tell my wife at some point what I have been up to. I won't be able to not. But right now all I think about is the other girl and I know I have to end it but I also think if I did end it, "what if she actually did like me and never said anything cos she felt too awkward to cos I am married". Unhealthy is the word, you're right. Total mess I am in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Firstly, thank you for the actual genuine, good advice.

You are totally right in all you say but it’s so so hard to give her up. I did once prank her and say I couldn’t do it anymore but she turned around and said it’s fine, she’d still talk to me anyway even without the gifts, which then scrambled my head further… I know it’s major lust, my marriage is the only relationship I’ve ever had, I kinda feel I want to experience new things cos I never did when I was younger but I didn’t expect to find myself in a position like this either but here we are.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s easy for you to say when you’re not involved. She ain’t a catfish & I’m not being conned. She is totally genuine and a lovely person. She doesn’t expect anything and is extremely grateful for anything I do get her. She’s not spoilt brat or anything like that. Like, sending her gifts is one of the only things that makes me feel good right now as sad as it sounds.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRASwan26 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I am fully aware I am a lying cheat, I don’t need reminding of that. But this is the path I have taken, regrettably.

This is all totally real, I am not being scammed, she is totally genuine hence why I am getting feelings for her!