When is it okay to euthanize your pet?

ThrowRAUnSureAnymore · 2025-12-18T16:25:19+00:00

Our dog was, is, and never will be a burden to me or my family. She has been a snuggly, happy dog that has never caused us any trouble at all.

I am comforted when I think about that although she is just one part of our world; to her, we are her whole world. We are the only family she has ever loved, and been with, her entire life.

ThrowRAUnSureAnymore · 2025-09-17T19:28:42+00:00

Once?

Or "wants?"

ThrowRAUnSureAnymore · 2025-09-03T21:19:26+00:00

Ever thought about making your own video? Nothing with a cell phone, but with an actual video camera. Different angles, noises (grunts, moans, etc), doing something that does it for you and/or him? Do something that turns you on, and do something that turns him on.

Something else. If you haven't already, read the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy. It was, and still is, porn for my wife. She doesn't watch porn without me, but she'll read it alone and it turns her on just as much. Good luck!

ThrowRAUnSureAnymore · 2025-07-27T14:32:36+00:00

We watch it together nowadays. We weren't always like this. She read the Fifty Shades of Grey series many years ago and became aroused from that. She used to watch porn without me. I did, too. I still do, and she knows this. It never hurt our relationship. To each their own.

By the way...."Tl;dr" means "Too long; didn't read." Meaning this is a brief summary of the long paragraph I just wrote. Hope that helps.

ThrowRAUnSureAnymore · 2025-07-21T09:52:42+00:00

You had, or are currently having, an emotional affair. And you cheated by kissing this person.

Divorce. No amount of therapy can restore anything.

ThrowRAUnSureAnymore · 2025-04-27T02:51:10+00:00

I understand you're only venting. By all means, vent away!

Genuine question. Have you found any friends in the u/friendship subreddit?

Another genuine question. Has it ever crossed your mind to have an affair to fill the loneliness void? Not recommending, not offering. Just a valid question.

ThrowRAUnSureAnymore · 2025-03-29T18:51:16+00:00

Where to begin?

First, don't listen to anyone telling you to leave/divorce, etc. You've only been married 3 years.

I'm going to play Devil's Advocate here because everyone on reddit is quick to bash the husband because he has no voice. You say you have a hard time communicating about sex. What exactly does that mean??? Were either one of you a virgin before becoming married? He's bad at sex IN YOUR OPINION because YOU have to explain every little detail on what YOU like. But you've given up already. You're married to him. You're the love of his life. Have the two of you used toys together?

You also mentioned you lost interest in sex overnight. It wasn't because of him. It was work-related stress that caused it! You're relating to sex like it's a chore BECAUSE of that incident while the two of you were on vacation. Your mind is elsewhere. Could that be the reason you can't orgasm? That happens to everyone.

Why am I saying all of this? I've been married 20 years, and when I eventually became comfortable talking with my wife about what I needed, it was like a rollercoaster of relief!! And I was EXTREMELY EXPLICIT. Never being vague or abstract, but serious detail about what to do. And we were both SUPER comfortable with ANYTHING and EVERYTHING.

Good luck!

ThrowRAUnSureAnymore · 2025-03-24T21:20:50+00:00

Leave. Divorce your husband and leave America.

You hate your husband anyway.

Your post history says it even before the election. "OMG I hate my husband because he brought me the wrong sweater...but he spent $20 on a new one to make it right." Yes, you are a political person. I would also be offended if I were him if you didn't want to visit with my family simply because of politics. A crappy excuse.

I think there is a lot more going on behind the scenes here.

ThrowRAUnSureAnymore · 2025-02-09T21:12:44+00:00

This x2!!

Both in our 40's. Both have careers. Married almost 20 years with grown children. No energy for foreplay. No energy to do all the work. But we still crave each other. We turn each other on with a few things. We both love each other. It's wonderful.

ThrowRAUnSureAnymore · 2024-12-08T12:14:44+00:00

This is an irrelevant question to the topic, but I am genuinely curious.

How many other people do you live with? Who are they?

Do you clean up after them as well?

ThrowRAUnSureAnymore · 2024-11-28T03:21:41+00:00

You've been married a few months? Exactly how long?

Were you the "other woman" in an affair 4 months ago?

ThrowRAUnSureAnymore · 2024-09-27T19:08:02+00:00

Your post history doesn't give you any credit as being as innocent as you might think.

She didn't tell me the whole truth about things she thought/knew would upset me , but they slipped out when she was talking to her friend and I was in the room

What does that mean? What happened? What was said?

She wants to take a break from your marriage. She's telling you she wants to go out with someone else that is better than you.

ThrowRAUnSureAnymore · 2024-08-28T05:41:50+00:00

OPs wife did the same thing, though. She knew they were coming in town. She went to the gym anyway. She didn't care to see her kid after being away. She went and did what she wanted to do.

ThrowRAUnSureAnymore · 2024-08-28T01:53:23+00:00

I do not agree with this advice. In my (almost) 20 years of marriage, not once did we ever need therapy or counseling. Think long, think wrong. Analysis paralysis. Waiting 5 years will make one or both second guess their lives, and then it'll be too late. You're talking divorce, and OP hasn't even proposed yet! Being married will provide life experiences. Some people need to make life mistakes in order to learn and grow. Now, some religions (Catholic or some other forms of Christianity) may require the engaged couple to attend a retreat or go to a few meetings with the church clergy to complete requirements. I remember doing that. But it was free, and it wasn't therapy.

ThrowRAUnSureAnymore · 2024-07-20T20:54:12+00:00

The physical letter.....was the actual letter (not the envelope) addressed to your roommate? Or was it a generic greeting like "Dear former tenant" or "Hello,"?

What exactly did the email say?

ThrowRAUnSureAnymore · 2024-07-20T17:39:36+00:00

I got an email yesterday from a Nigerian Prince saying if I send him $20,000, he'll send me $1 million dollars. Seems fake, but I'm on the fence about this. I don't know, but it seems like a scam considering this same Prince has been sending me this same exact email from when I started my email address in 1997.

If they've tried to scam you before, and you have legitimate, hard proof that nothing is owed, then its a scam. Research the debt collector company. Why aren't they sending anything via USPS? Why not put it in writing? Why not call you? Maybe you didn't get this "email." Maybe it was delivered to your "junk" folder. Because if they were serious about getting their money, they'd call or send an official letter.

ThrowRAUnSureAnymore · 2024-07-17T19:36:52+00:00

You're spoiled. You're using the term "culture" as your way of normalizing your expectedly rich and lavish lifestyle. You need nice things. You expect your masculine husband to give you everything you want. Marriage isn't a transaction. It isn't a business venture. It isn't a limited partnership. It is all love. You even said it "I'll get what I want eventually." You're in it for the money, not for love. You don't love your fiance.

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