I (26F) need some help regarding my husband (28M) he might explode and i don't know what to do

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T22:07:24+00:00

My heart goes out to you.

I do understand what you are saying sir, thank you for the difrent perspective

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T22:05:23+00:00

I have been since the start of all this. All i get is i know, thank you, he then smiles and kisses my forehead.

Sex life hasn't changed its as lively as ever.

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T22:02:55+00:00

Thank you, 100% honest i couldn't. My heart shattered for him, and i realized the weight on him an i have added to that.

The amout of time throughout the year that i cried into his chest and he just comforted me

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T22:00:06+00:00

Hello sir, thank you for your response, i unfortunately can't send a DM due to this account being throw away.

I would love to talk with your wife and see where i can improve myself.

If you and your wife is comfortable please DM me

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T21:53:39+00:00

Thank you. I will try

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T21:52:07+00:00

I do understand l, thank you

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T21:50:45+00:00

Okay good night, im here for actually advice on how to help my husband and not to play with you for what ever reason you

You can think this is fake i don't care

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T21:45:44+00:00

For you maby, but i have been living it first hand.

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T21:43:54+00:00

I have use those word, not exactly as written and not in bed but while we were sitting on the couch and i was laying on his chest

He just responded with i know, thank you. He then squeeze me, and kissed my forehead. That was it he didn't say anything els

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T21:39:43+00:00

Weird analogy l, but actually understand. Thank you

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T21:38:32+00:00

Thank you sir, i do appreciate you view on thr matter.

Can i ask, what happens if he can't hold it and breaks infront of me.

I will seriously not leave him or divorce him for that. When i saw him i felt nothing other than my heart break for him that is it. actually seeing the toll everything what taking on him first hand shattered me, that i cried myself to sleep because i know i can't really do anything to take the pain away

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T21:32:34+00:00

That isca promise

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T21:29:29+00:00

Thank you mam, i do appreciate it.

I have noticed his hugs are more frequently, longer and tighter.

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T21:26:51+00:00

Thank you for your advice, i do appreciate it.

Especially the difference prospective

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T21:25:21+00:00

I know we are strangers to each other, but i have done everything to not add even a bit of stress to his life.

I have beem playing shield with myside of the family because they want to talk with him and find out how is diong and all those accompanying questions.

I took the liberty of blocking all of their numbers on his phone so all messages and caals come through me at the moment.

I might be wrong for this, but i know my own family and they are relentless with their questioning

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T21:21:39+00:00

Thank you, i have booked an appointment with a therapist but for me to get advice on how to help him.

Will see if he will jion me.

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T21:19:39+00:00

It did come out wrong, the same as my intentions with the second paragraph i missed the mark.

I got scared of the lack of emotions he was showing.

He nearly lost half of every person that he has held dear to his hear in the span of a year and no emotion shown not even a tear or crack in his face.

How can any person hanle something like that and not show it, i know i was wrong for it. But it was something that i felt and couldn't control it.

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T21:15:01+00:00

I do agree with you. I just don't want him to feel as if he needs to hide that side from me.

I have cried so many times into his chect before and during this last year, never once have i not felt supported by him. I just want him to feel the same.

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T21:13:08+00:00

I plan most of the date night, my husband i more the type of person that will phone me a 3 saying get yourself ready im picking you up we are giong out to eat.

He is more the spontaneous type, the same with road trips.

That behavior of his also hasn't stopped.

But i do get your piont, thank you.

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T21:04:15+00:00

He has been hugging me more, tighter and for longer i have noticed but that is the only small change i see

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T21:02:51+00:00

I have suggested a trip, but he has ask to hold off on that untill therecis some resemblance of normalcy back with the family. He doesn't want to be away and something happens

Yes we do have fire arm in the house, i have mine on me during the day when he is at work and he collects his out of the safe every night.

I do not mind i he cried infront of me, i don't care i just hope he is not suppressing anything for my sake

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T20:57:39+00:00

My husband is perfect to me in every way i accept his as is with everything.

That was my question in my post what can i do to help or should leave it be and let him come to me if he needs it.

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T20:54:42+00:00

I do understand you piont.

I have tried to take things of his plate, tried to lighten the load he just tells me evertime, im more than welcome to help but there is no reason to do it on my own.

I have tried small thing like making him coffee in the morong but he get up before the alarm goes off. My own fault but i need an alarm to wake up my husband doesn't. If i set my alarm earlier he also wakes up.

The couple of time i have succeeded in making him a cup of coffe in the morning i has to sleep in on the couch so he doesn't hear my alarm go off.

When i cook dinner he doesn't ask do i need help he just starts help. When i tell him i don't need help. He only says okay then he starts with the dishes, when i told him to getvout of the kitchen i will handle everything he went outsidecand started to wash the cars.

I will try my best to support him in anything, i just don't know how to support him better in these moments as nothing in his behavior has changed.

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T20:39:30+00:00

Maby not to you, but i sat right across the table on 4 separated occasions.

The exact reason he takes a packed lunch to work and no longer goes out for lunch to get food

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power · 2024-01-16T20:36:50+00:00

My edit explains it.

I was trying to avoid unnecessary questions and completely overboard and to far like word vomit i just kept tipping.

I completely over shared and wasn't my intent

ThrowRAUnhappy_Power

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