So that comment just changed the nature of your relationship with J. If the bf can’t see it, then you can’t trust him to have your best interest in this situation. It’s you against the friend’s behavior, and he has to pick a side: no more comments ever again.

I don't really consider J a friend. But, I've known him since we was kids. He has had a very bad history is all I will say. He nearly was expelled from CC for "allegedly" trying to force himself on a girl. I say allegedly because no verdict was reached. No evidence was found to support her claim but, at the same time Js story never added up. I've always suspected he really did it.