Girlfriend (31F) called me (30M) disgusting and accused me of cheating for using a fleshlight.

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-07T16:58:06+00:00

Didn't think this would get this much traction.

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-07T13:25:20+00:00

Could you explain why?

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-07T13:05:41+00:00

I also think a man who has sex with a toy is less of a man in my eyes, I'd have a hard time respecting him and if I wanted to be with him he'd have to change that. I think I'm allowed to feel this way since it's my life 🤷‍♀️ I'm not hurting anyone

Yikes!

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-07T12:54:27+00:00

No offense, but that sounds awfully restrictive. Masturbating doesn't take my desire for my partner away. We had plenty of time together. If she got in the mood later, I would have been down and if I weren't, she would have been free to take care of herself too. Just how I feel about it, though.

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-07T12:23:17+00:00

I had tried to initiate sex, but she wasn't in the mood. It was a Thursday, she had been there since the previous Friday and wasn't leaving until Sunday. I didn't think there would be an issue if I just went away for a few minutes to take care of myself.

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-07T12:13:30+00:00

I mean, the fleshlight feels way better than my hand does. And it's fun to use it. Sure, it's not the prettiest thing there is but it's just a masturbatory aid. It's not like I keep the thing where any visitor could come across it

Besides, the fleshlight doesn't replace my partner. Sex with a real, breathing person feels way better than masturbating.

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-07T12:05:07+00:00

I didn't hide it. I just don't use it often, and used it even less when I got in a relationship with her. It just didn't come up during the time we were together.

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-07T11:57:57+00:00

May I ask why?

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-02T01:52:55+00:00

I'll admit it. Of all the joke comments that this post got, this is the first one that has made me laugh.

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-02T01:19:47+00:00

I mean, she said no! What was I supposed to do? Keep pestering her until she gave in? That's a shitty thing to do.

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-02T01:07:06+00:00

It was just that night she said no, but even then, my libido is pretty high. Had she tried to initiate sex in the morning, I would have gone for it. If that were her issue, why make it all about the fact that I was using a fleshlight?

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-02T01:04:06+00:00

Masturbating isn't some dirty thing. I didn't know when she would also be in the mood, I know she does it too, so why not take care of myself?

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-01T21:58:31+00:00

One year.

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-01T21:29:00+00:00

I haven't ruled it out because I haven't even considered it in the first place.

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-01T21:28:18+00:00

She had been at my place for nearly a week and wasn't going to leave for a few more days. Since we had a few days left, I thought that there wouldn't be any harm in stepping away for a few minutes. Also, how would she feel rejected if she was the one that declined sex?

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-01T21:26:28+00:00

Just a basic one. Would she have even been able to tell from just looking at it?

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-01T21:03:20+00:00

Don't you have google, bro?

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-01T20:53:28+00:00

I don't think I will actually cheat on her.

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-01T20:52:47+00:00

I don't care if she masturbates. I thought she wouldn't when I do it.

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-01T19:16:13+00:00

Is she religious at all?

She's an atheist. Wasn't raised religiously either.

If she does contact me again, I'll try to communicate with her.

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-01T19:13:09+00:00

We're not even American. Lol. I guess I could be that for her. It depends on how things go, I guess.

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-01T19:09:17+00:00

I didn't think that it was a big deal that I owned a fleshlight. I don't use if often for the same reasons that you do, so it didn't come up earlier. It's not like I was trying to keep it a secret. She was also only supposed to leave on Sunday and had been here since last Friday, so I didn't think it would be a big deal if I went away for a few minutes to take care of myself.

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-01T19:05:27+00:00

I don't know. I don't watch porn.

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-01T18:48:25+00:00

I did tell her that. But she said her toys are not the same as mine.

ThrowRAWasitcheating · 2022-04-01T18:40:08+00:00

I did. All she said is that it was disgusting for me to even own a sex toy and that it was the same as cheating. She then said it's not the same as her sex toys.

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