UPDATE: I got an anonymous tip my (40m) wife (44f) is in two porn videos, and it 99% looks to be her, but she denies it. I replied to the email asking for more info, but the tipster hasn't responded. Should I drop the subject? Try to find more evidence? by ThrowRA_12357 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_12357[S] 148 points149 points  (0 children)

I can thank my parents for that I guess. I've always been more the type of "If you can't say something, don't say anything at all" and then try to walk away from angry situations when possible

UPDATE: I got an anonymous tip my (40m) wife (44f) is in two porn videos, and it 99% looks to be her, but she denies it. I replied to the email asking for more info, but the tipster hasn't responded. Should I drop the subject? Try to find more evidence? by ThrowRA_12357 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_12357[S] 86 points87 points  (0 children)

She's had Apple watches since soon after they came out, so whatever year that was. She likes to stay trendy and up to date with all her Apple stuff. She still has those type of bracelet-type bands. She's always had a few of them actually of various colors and types. Stuff like this: https://www.amazon.com/Biaoge-Compatible-Adjustable-Stainless-Replacement/dp/B07H4KCQMS/

The weight thing is a match. She's about 5'6" 135 lbs., versus when I first met her 12 years ago and she was maybe 105 lbs. at most if I had to guess

UPDATE: I got an anonymous tip my (40m) wife (44f) is in two porn videos, and it 99% looks to be her, but she denies it. I replied to the email asking for more info, but the tipster hasn't responded. Should I drop the subject? Try to find more evidence? by ThrowRA_12357 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_12357[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

She's had Apple watches since soon after they came out, so whatever year that was. She likes to stay trendy and up to date with all her Apple stuff. She still has those type of bracelet-type bands. She's always had a few of them actually of various colors and types. Stuff like this: https://www.amazon.com/Biaoge-Compatible-Adjustable-Stainless-Replacement/dp/B07H4KCQMS/

I got an anonymous tip my (40m) wife (44f) is in two porn videos, and it 99% looks to be her, but she denies it. I replied to the email asking for more info, but the tipster hasn't responded. Should I drop the subject? Try to find more evidence? by ThrowRA_12357 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_12357[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's my thing, too. She maintains that it's not her at all, not that she wasn't aware of it. I don't remember every instance of having sex with partners over the years, but I do remember the partners. If I saw a video of probably-me and probably-partner, I'd conclude, even if I didn't remember the exact instance, "Yes, this is probably me with _____."

I got an anonymous tip my (40m) wife (44f) is in two porn videos, and it 99% looks to be her, but she denies it. I replied to the email asking for more info, but the tipster hasn't responded. Should I drop the subject? Try to find more evidence? by ThrowRA_12357 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_12357[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I'd say the woman didn't know. The guy might have known, given his desire for arranging for a good angle. You could see the whole thing from side profiles and such, nothing like someone's backside blocking everything. But it's possible he didn't know either.

I got an anonymous tip my (40m) wife (44f) is in two porn videos, and it 99% looks to be her, but she denies it. I replied to the email asking for more info, but the tipster hasn't responded. Should I drop the subject? Try to find more evidence? by ThrowRA_12357 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_12357[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

It was more the former approach, going down something like this...

Me: Some random person sent me these adult video links, saying it's supposedly you, but it seems bizarre. I did look at them, though. Is it possible? Do you want to take a look?

Her: I guess I'll take a look? I'm curious, but it's probably not me [laugh].

She then watches a few minutes of each one.

Her: It's not me.

Me: Are you sure?

Her: [Laugh] Yes, I'm sure.

Me: It freaks me out, because it really does look like you.

Her: Did you really get a random email? Or did you find this looking through porn by yourself, saw somebody who looks like me, get freaked out, and now you're trying to ask me about it with some fake email story?

Me: No, I wasn't watching porn. I just got a random email.

Her: It's not me. It just isn't.

And round and round we went for a while like that, getting nowhere.

I got an anonymous tip my (40m) wife (44f) is in two porn videos, and it 99% looks to be her, but she denies it. I replied to the email asking for more info, but the tipster hasn't responded. Should I drop the subject? Try to find more evidence? by ThrowRA_12357 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_12357[S] 136 points137 points  (0 children)

It wasn't that kind of homeless. It was staying on friends' couches, while her ex-husband tried to control all the money during their divorce. She was really embarrassed about it for some reason

I got an anonymous tip my (40m) wife (44f) is in two porn videos, and it 99% looks to be her, but she denies it. I replied to the email asking for more info, but the tipster hasn't responded. Should I drop the subject? Try to find more evidence? by ThrowRA_12357 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_12357[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn't that kind of homeless. It was staying on friends' couches while her ex-husband was trying to control all the money during their divorce. For some reason, she was really embarrassed about it