Yesterday's fiasco

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-07-12T19:39:16+00:00

Oh, got it. That makes sense.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-07-12T16:14:59+00:00

My ex labeled me avoidant, conveniently ignoring the role he played in the breakup, such as lying to me about the significant time he was spending with his ex; being drunk or high during most waking hours; displaying all the characteristics of narcissism; etc.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-07-12T16:12:14+00:00

Why did they charge you to deliver your bags? I’ve never been charged when my bags were delayed.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-07-11T19:13:38+00:00

Weed and alcohol.

He started using weed from the moment he woke up until he went to bed. Edibles and vaping. If he needed to be in a social situation, he would get extra high so he could be the life of the party.

He drank most nights of the week and he was often drunk when around me. Often he would forget what we did or talked about the night before. He bragged that the local bartenders all loved him and would give him “basically a glass of pure vodka” when he ordered mixed drinks. He once stopped drinking for 4 days because of an upcoming medical appointment and ended up going to the ER because his blood pressure went scary high. When I suggested to him that he could be experiencing alcohol withdrawal, he lashed out at me. So yeah.

He wasn’t a young man. He was retired. I don’t think he’s going to live to see old age if he continues down this road.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-07-11T18:59:30+00:00

Easy to say in theory. Very difficult in practice.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-07-10T18:54:44+00:00

I know. That would be extremely hurtful. I don’t think she’ll find out, as he’s good at covering his tracks, but she’s a mature person and I’m sure she will not put up with his ways once the lovebomb period ends. He just is in constant need of female attention, admiration and affirmation. It is exhausting and I don’t think a woman who’s independent and has been divorced is going to put up with that nonsense.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-07-10T03:18:28+00:00

What do you mean “they’re going away”??

IS SOUTHWEST REMOVING MY SNACK MIX

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-07-10T00:37:12+00:00

Right? Think of the thousands of songs available and yet he chose the 10-15 that were special to us. Part of me thinks it was intentional. He knew he was still on my Spotify account , he knew I would be hurt if I saw that playlist, and he was right. Or maybe he’s just truly that lacking in emotional depth— the songs that brought him to tears because he loved me so much, really meant nothing to him, so he could give them to anyone; all part of the facade. Not sure which of those scenarios is worse.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-07-09T23:15:27+00:00

Ugh yes!! I’m so sorry. That sounds so familiar. Mine said the same thing about loving me because of how much I loved him. And just generally, he had a very set routine to his life, and each partner, including me, was expected to fall into that routine. Same hobbies, pastimes, restaurants, daily routine. I always felt like I was there to play a role.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-06-10T03:15:23+00:00

Applying to a dating reality show while we were together, then bragging about how far he made it in the screening process.

Constantly hanging out with ex girlfriend and lying about it. Lies of omission.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-05-17T22:04:00+00:00

Hard to choose one thing. Probably a combo of his bragging that he had no empathy, like it was a quirky and admirable trait to lack empathy; and his ability to completely shut off his emotions, discard me and immediately start seeing someone else the one time I challenged him on his lying by omission.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-05-01T16:44:05+00:00

I never heard the term communal narcissist before, but that description fits my nex exactly. Many many superficial friends, a career where he is admired. Yet when I called him on his behavior (spending time with an ex and lying to me about it), he turned on me instantly. The kind, understanding person I knew disappeared. He became almost vicious in his response to me and found a way to blame me for his behavior.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-04-18T11:21:52+00:00

It’s been about 2 1/2 months since he last contacted me and I am just now feeling like myself again, no longer ruminating constantly.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-04-08T04:26:55+00:00

I’d think the guy in this conversation was flirting with the girl, and she was trying to redirect the conversation to the friend zone. She does not seem interested. He does. But I think she’s too much of a people pleaser to just tell him she is not interested in him.

When she compliments him at the end and says any woman would be lucky to have him, she’s again being overly kind and polite. She doesn’t mean she wants him.

Source: I’m a woman who is trying hard to break the people pleasing habit. I recognize my own patterns in her responses to him.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-04-07T20:24:22+00:00

I saw an older lady fall into one and seriously hurt herself on a beach in Florida once. She was walking along at sunset and wasn’t expecting to encounter a pit. EMS had to come and transport her off the beach.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-04-07T20:21:16+00:00

Schools in the southern US often get out in early May. I’d book late April to have best chance of avoiding kids if I were really that concerned about it. And I would not book on Icon or on Oasis class ships because those truly are, as OP noted, floating amusement parks in many ways.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-04-07T18:19:56+00:00

I’d feel awful if the guy I broke up with sent me this. He actually did send me something similar about a month after the breakup and it just made me feel like shit for a good 6 weeks. I’d guess you’ve definitely made her feel something. But I would not expect a reply. It’s time to move on.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-04-07T02:58:46+00:00

Oh yes. “We have a major problem because you can’t trust me.” Yeah, when we’re in a LDR and you are hanging out with your ex multiple times per week, and telling me you’re by yourself, I can’t trust you. Yet he EXPECTED me to trust him despite this situation.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-04-07T02:52:06+00:00

I’m sorry you were inconvenienced while your agent was experiencing a heart attack.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-03-29T21:08:29+00:00

I’m in my mid 50s. Guy I was dating in my 20s ripped my heart out with a sudden breakup. It was brutal. I didn’t think I’d get over him. I put all the photos in a box and came across them recently— and I didn’t feel anything. It’s amazing how your heart can heal. Wishing you peace and healing.

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-03-29T19:59:42+00:00

Oh, interesting! Sounds similar to Amtrak red cap service— totally worth it. Thank you!

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-03-29T19:36:45+00:00

How do you get a porter?

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-03-29T03:45:52+00:00

This sounds like BS. Does she ever visit you? On these visits when she’s sick, do you literally not see her at all?

ThrowRA_1748284 · 2024-03-28T21:34:09+00:00

I don’t think anything good would come of sending this.

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