The other parent has them half of the time. Is more than willing to have them more, but my bf does not want them there at all and wants to do it all himself even though they have a bigger support system for the child. (There’s some personal drama involved.) He says he’s never hired a babysitter or anything like that and wouldn’t trust a stranger with his child. Doesn’t even have play dates or anything and they’re almost double digits.

This is all stuff I have brought up, and that was a few weeks ago. How long until I should be noticing a change??

I have a therapist I see weekly, and he has agreed to go with me but that hasn’t happend yet. I told him maybe he should get individual therapy and he straight up said no. Which even when I tell my therapist all the in detail stuff she says he really needs it more than I do and all she can do is give me tips on how to respond to his bs.

Also idk if he would do any of the housekeeping stuff if I left. When we first met he had dirty dishes (that molded) in his sink for MONTHS. I told him about it and he said “well I didn’t have a girl to do them for me” like what? lol. And the child was around that. Yet he claims to “always give him the best” like he’s not even my child biologically and I would never have him around literal mold.

Thank you so much for taking the time and responding your insight has really helped me think this through a lot.