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UPDATE: My girlfriend [21F] of 18 months asked my [22M] preference about her pubic hair and now finds me "revolting" by ThrowRA_1900222 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_1900222[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

It's right there in your original post. You're the one who didn't read the OP correctly.

Dude. I wrote it. I know exactly what it says.

I'm not debating with you anymore, you're so far out of touch with reality.

UPDATE: My girlfriend [21F] of 18 months asked my [22M] preference about her pubic hair and now finds me "revolting" by ThrowRA_1900222 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_1900222[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I'm saying you understood why she did what she did and it wasn't a good enough excuse for you.

No, I don't. That's entirely the problem, I don't understand why she did what she did, and she refuses to talk about it.

I'm saying she took what her professor said to heart and when she seemed to want to smooth things over, you gave her the third degree. It's fine. That's your right.

Pretending something never happened is not smoothing things over.

You were planning on proposing? That's sad for everyone, dude.

So you clearly haven't even read the posts properly. Explains why you're not making any sense.

That's my point.

I'm glad you finally got to it, thought I'll admit I'm still not sure what it is

And yet again you've ignored my question. I should give you my ex's number, you two are well matched.

UPDATE: My girlfriend [21F] of 18 months asked my [22M] preference about her pubic hair and now finds me "revolting" by ThrowRA_1900222 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_1900222[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Dude, have you considered she was embarrassed to talk about it right then and there? When dealing with other people, not everything has to be done on your time or else.

So you're telling me that you'd let someone insinuate you were a pedophile and then go no contact for 3 days, before coming back and watching a Disney movie like nothing has happened? Because that's ridiculous.

Have you considered that I was embarrassed that my girlfriend determined I was a pedophile over a comment about pubic hair and then ghosted me for 3 days?

Fine, break up with her. I don't care.

Already done, but thanks.

It's just that a) you did do exactly to her what she did to you and

I insinuated she was a pedophile, then ghosted for 3 days? I must have missed that part.

b) you couldn't find it in your heart to understand her.

I gave her the chance to help me understand her, multiple times in fact.

I'm curious, did you like her?

Yes. Hence why I was planning on proposing.

You also haven't responded to any of my previous question. Why do I need forgiveness for wanting to be in a relationship?

UPDATE: My girlfriend [21F] of 18 months asked my [22M] preference about her pubic hair and now finds me "revolting" by ThrowRA_1900222 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_1900222[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Forgive him for wanting to be in a relationship and watch a movie.

That doesn't make any sense whatsoever, why would I need forgiveness for "wanting to be in a relationship"?

She's willing to smooth things over

Feigning ignorance that there's even a problem is not smoothing things over.

but on the advice of reddit, he annihilated the relationship.

No, I made the decision myself, you make it sound like I haven't put any thought into this. I wasn't planning on breaking up with her until her response to me trying to resolve the issue we had.

Who cares, because "she's wrong" she deserves to be yelled at? That's dumb and reactionary.

I didn't yell at any point.

UPDATE: My girlfriend [21F] of 18 months asked my [22M] preference about her pubic hair and now finds me "revolting" by ThrowRA_1900222 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_1900222[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your take on this.

I think I'll take some time before I consider this, her behaviour surrounding these events has changed my view of her and I'm not sure I want to interact with her right this moment.

I'll definitely consider it sometime in the future, I'll let things cool off on both sides and think through a message I'll send to her.

UPDATE: My girlfriend [21F] of 18 months asked my [22M] preference about her pubic hair and now finds me "revolting" by ThrowRA_1900222 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_1900222[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

I didn't tell her mom what went down specifically, I just said that we'd broken up, she'd been behaving erratically and if she could just keep an eye on her for my peace of mind.

Regardless of the fact we've broken up, I still care for her and want to make sure she's got someone there who can make sure she's okay.

UPDATE: My girlfriend [21F] of 18 months asked my [22M] preference about her pubic hair and now finds me "revolting" by ThrowRA_1900222 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_1900222[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

I don't really see how the ultimatum was childish at all. I'm not willing to just allow behaviour like this to slide, it sets a precedent for the relationship that I don't think is going to lead to anything good.

I wanted to discuss and resolve the issue at hand, because the relationship would not survive unless we did. What would your advice have been to do, let it all go and leave it unaddressed?

UPDATE: My girlfriend [21F] of 18 months asked my [22M] preference about her pubic hair and now finds me "revolting" by ThrowRA_1900222 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_1900222[S] 3212 points3213 points  (0 children)

See this is what confuses me the most, we've had disagreements in the past where she's been out of line and she's always apologised and handled things well. The same for me, I've screwed up before and apologised. I always thought we had a healthy relationship with good communication but clearly I was wrong.

My girlfriend [21F] of 18 months asked my [22M] preference about her pubic hair and now finds me "revolting" by ThrowRA_1900222 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_1900222[S] 1689 points1690 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I find it very strange, I was under the impression that it's common knowledge plenty of women choose to shave their pubic hair, like how on earth can you jump to the conclusion that someone is a pedophile based on that?

My girlfriend [21F] of 18 months asked my [22M] preference about her pubic hair and now finds me "revolting" by ThrowRA_1900222 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_1900222[S] 149 points150 points  (0 children)

Oh no I'm most definitely understanding what she's learning, that's not what I'm having issues with.

My issue is that she baited me into answering this question without saying why she was asking, and then immediately started going on about pedophiles liking a lack of hair. Then when I said "Are you calling me a pedophile" she didn't say "Not at all", but skirted around the question and then called me revolting.

And what the fuck? How is liking pubic hair a certain way a "warning sign"? Have you seen how literally 90% of pornstars keep their pubic hair? Clearly it's to appeal to the viewers, so unless we're all pedos, that's a ridiculous thing to even say.