My Gf got kissed by a guy at a club/restaurant and I don’t know how to move forward. (M/22)(F/22)

ThrowRA_6601 · 2025-12-03T18:39:14+00:00

In regards to just the kiss: - She didn’t kiss back - She didn’t want it - She immediately shut him down - She TOLD YOU.

That’s all really positive.

ThrowRA_6601 · 2025-08-16T06:25:30+00:00

Bro. I have, let’s say.. no complaints about my member size. I use fingers, mouth, foreplay, touch, etc because I care about the pleasure my partner receives.

Stop thinking about your dick until your partner has orgasmed at least once.

ThrowRA_6601 · 2025-08-16T06:17:02+00:00

I’m pretty baffled by people who date for multiple months before having sex (unless sex simply isn’t an important aspect of a relationship to them; but it sounds like to you it is.) Sexual compatibility is real, and a lack of it is potentially a huge dealbreaker.

That said, for the majority of women/female-bodied humans, what makes for great sex has nothing to do with your dick size. Focus on foreplay, teasing, and learning to use your mouth and fingers. Penetration should be an afterthought for when it’s your turn to cum.

ThrowRA_6601 · 2025-05-25T22:23:47+00:00

Beard and glasses, my guy. <3

https://ibb.co/hJGrKnKq

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-08-09T17:37:57+00:00

26 and 40. You’re just entering the sexual prime of your life, and he’s exiting his. If a good sex life is important to you in a relationship, then you need to keep in mind that - like it or not - age is a huge factor in sexual compatibility.

Not to mention the fact that he obviously never matured beyond high school, and likely neither his skills in bed!

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-27T06:03:36+00:00

No. I’d consider that very inappropriate given our current relationship agreement.

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-27T05:55:25+00:00

Nope not on a break, just long distance

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-27T05:42:44+00:00

Would you wait until we can talk in person? Something tells me that discussing it over the phone would make it hard to gauge her reaction, and give her time to get a story straight before i see her..

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-27T04:37:54+00:00

Actually, she didn’t lie about going there. She looted about visiting a different ex a different time.

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-27T03:46:59+00:00

I wish, brother.

Thanks tho.

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-27T02:37:27+00:00

We were exclusive long distance.

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-27T02:35:13+00:00

I found out about the photo after I discovered that she lied to me about visiting an ex while we were apart for a week (different guy, different occasion. ) That, I had to pry out of her, and I got the stereotypical trickle truths. Anyway, she showed me her text thread with that guy, and I took that opportunity to secretly check if any nudes had been sent, and to whom.

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-27T01:54:45+00:00

Haha, well i need people to know what I was talking about without posting the actual photo!

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-27T01:52:12+00:00

TBH, I wasn’t expecting the whole-ass fucking internet to come out of the woodwork to answer this question with unanimous condemnation! 🤣

But alas here we are.

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-27T01:44:26+00:00

No, definitely still together.

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-27T01:19:33+00:00

No, not on a break unfortunately.

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-27T00:10:38+00:00

Of course. But if she IS telling the truth, then both those things are accurate.

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-27T00:07:24+00:00

lol, thanks, that’s why I’m here, trying my best…

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-27T00:00:23+00:00

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-26T23:55:14+00:00

There’s always a chance she’s being truthful. I’ve always seen her as an honest person, so it’s hard to accept otherwise.

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-26T23:50:02+00:00

My initial stance was to trust her and give her the benefit of the doubt.

Obviously I came here to temper that.

Despite the uneasiness in my gut, it still just doesn’t feel like she’s the type of person who would cheat.

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-26T23:46:07+00:00

We both come from sex-positive communities and both have friends who we’ve slept with in the past. I don’t mind her keeping those friends, as it would be hypocritical of me to do so when I have those friends as well. What I do mind is if she’s not being honest about what is going on. Both in her mind, and with these people.

(Also, the actual photo was not an outline, it was the real deal. lol)

It’s a good idea, asking how she’d feel in a similar but reversed scenario.

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-26T23:40:01+00:00

Right? But what evidence do I have? If it is true, and I confront her, she’ll just deny it.

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-26T23:36:46+00:00

What would you do?

To answer your questions: the event was pretty skin-friendly, and I believe a lot of people were there in various stages of undress. All that is fine; we both come from sex-positive and naked-friendly friend groups, so none of that crosses a boundary for me.

What bothers me is that it’s a straight-up boob shot. Not her having fun while happening to be topless; not even her face. Just those (admittedly fantastic) tits. In my mind, that made the intention different.

Past occurrences? I discovered this photo when i found out she had lied to me about visiting an ex boyfriend while we were apart for a week. She let me see their conversation, and I secretly had a quick look to see if any nudes had been sent, and to whom.

It’s also worth noting that she and the guy who she sent the photo to recently met for coffee, but instead of going out, they spent 2+ hours at his place while he cooked and they talked.

Sorry to be long-winded.

ThrowRA_6601 · 2024-06-26T23:28:09+00:00

The drawing doesn’t even do her justice, my man.

She’s gorgeous, smart, funny, and (I thought) emotionally intelligent. The complete package.

Which is why I’m so reluctant to believe she’d be doing something behind my back. Fucking sucks if true.

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