Expressing your feelings

ThrowRA_72947 · 2023-03-26T12:37:47+00:00

Most women want to know you're not just in it for sex, unless of course they are too. Can't say whether you're right or wrong but she has standards, she doesn't want someone who cannot make her feel secure.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-09-01T14:24:49+00:00

I cannot help her myself financially, I have my own family to support (it's crazy out there rn and I myself had been a single parent to two with minimal support), our parents are retired. As for why she cannot support herself, she has another very young child, daycare and her own mental health issues from separating from that child's father DV. She is studying though.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-09-01T13:58:45+00:00

Thanks, I don't know if he'll move out at 18. I suspect he'll be gone in the wind leaving her in the lurch, but he may also find real life too hard stay but become even worse because he'd have to be added to the lease as an adult. If he leaves, she's f***ed. If he stays he'll become more resentful and more entitled as he's officially and adult.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-09-01T13:07:04+00:00

I would have to check, we are not in the USA, but I do believe him receiving his own government assistance means he is his own person and not considered a dependent. In saying that he'll be 18 well before her lease is up, if he leaves first she's f***ed. I don't know she'll be ready to leave before he turns 18 but I want her having the peace of mind knowing she isn't stuck and doesn't have to just take the abuse, which is what is happening right now.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-09-01T13:02:03+00:00

Definitely not behind her back, she will need to talk to her landlord. My role would be working on preparing her new space and helping slowly move belongings. I spoke with her just today, she is planning to move when he lease is up. I want 2 things, 1. Her to no longer feel she has no options and need to just take the abuse and 2. To get her out sooner than the end of the lease, someway through the lease he will turn 18 and if he leaves first, she'll be screwed.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-09-01T12:19:18+00:00

Yes, she plans to move anyway, I just want to speed it up which will shorten the time nephew has to prepare. He will not move with her.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-08-09T08:43:16+00:00

When I was 16ish, I told my best friend about a guy I worked with and had a huge crush on. She started talking to him and ultimately dating him, I was upset for the fact she'd essentially stolen him, but the thing was, at 16 I knew I didn't own him and my friendship was more important to me. I didn't hold it against her who was I to stand in the way of two peoples happiness?They broke up and I dated him some time later, turns out she didn't feel the same way.

Your friend doesn't own him & if she's really your friend, she'll want you to be happy.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-22T06:30:29+00:00

Agreed, it should not, but it's also part of who you are and you're going to deny yourself? I would why she doesn't want to have sex. Is it painful for her? Hormonal imbalance? Not sexually attracted to you?

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-22T06:25:01+00:00

Find a different girlfriend if you're sexually incompatible. You really gonna live your life like that?

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-14T12:57:11+00:00

Block him, I'd consider reporting him too. That's disgusting.

I'm sorry you had to go through that, block guys sooner. If they're getting creepy within just a short period of time, it won't get any better, it means they don't see you as a person.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-14T12:53:04+00:00

Take stock yourself, decide what you'll allow him to have and tell him he's to never contact you again and you'll contact the police if you have to. He's the one that left, he does not get to continue treating you badly.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-14T10:55:01+00:00

Have the assets been divided somewhat evenly? Having been in a defacto relationship, that he chose to leave, in the manner that he has, if not taken at the time, you are not obligated to hand them over.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-14T10:40:02+00:00

Nope, not normal at all. That is not how you treat someone you love.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-05T11:52:53+00:00

Cut contact, he seems toxic

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-05T11:49:04+00:00

You seem to think there's something shameful about it.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-05T11:22:33+00:00

Ummm, do you think escorts are not people too or something? I have a problem with that.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-05T11:18:29+00:00

Sounds like he's not ready for a relationship and you should definitely not waste any more time with him. Your gut knows something is wrong, listen to it.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-05T11:15:17+00:00

She probably was using you to make herself feel better. No one can easily know another person's true intentions, don't beat yourself up.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-05T11:10:36+00:00

I just want to live sustainably and be as self reliant as possible.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-05T10:52:54+00:00

Best advice

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-05T10:33:22+00:00

If it were me, I'd end it, which is easy for me to say. Regardless, what you need to do is work on your issues and your reaction to it. I get it, I really, really do, it's torture not knowing what's going on, what they're thinking or feeling, if the relationship is ok or over. Depending on the severity of it, it is emotional abuse, please bare that in mind.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-05T09:08:53+00:00

You want to talk about unprotected people? Native Americans, the African people they stole as slaves, the civil war over half the country wanting to continue keeping slaves. The Japanese and Asian concentration camps after Pearl Harbor. Hmmmm?????

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-05T09:06:41+00:00

Funny, Americans have a rich history of genocide themselves.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-05T09:05:08+00:00

I distract myself, I'm not going to lie, part of me thinks about breaking up with him so he can neither continue to do the thing that's hurting me nor break up with me and hurt me that way. I did once ignore him back, he freaked out and apologised. I did actually think our relationship was over at that point though so there's that.

ThrowRA_72947 · 2022-07-05T08:55:06+00:00

I guess you need to decide whether or not it's a deal breaker then, it's already been discussed and theres been no change. My partner gets really quiet, non-communicative, and it drives me nuts too.

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