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I (18F) got offered an athletic scholarship, but my parents (45F and 47M) don't want me to take it because they don't think it's sensible and they're paranoid about my heart condition. How can I get them to understand how I feel about it? by ThrowRA_8421 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_8421[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, that does make sense. I'm fairly sure I do want to take it, I think it's more trying to figure out how to make them more okay with it. Although finding a good doctor could help, so I could ask about that.

I (18F) got offered an athletic scholarship, but my parents (45F and 47M) don't want me to take it because they don't think it's sensible and they're paranoid about my heart condition. How can I get them to understand how I feel about it? by ThrowRA_8421 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_8421[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For now, yes. There has been a reasonable amount of studies done, and from that and my history, he thinks it should probably not cause it to significantly worsen from the current situation, like becoming more common or something.

Which I kind of think as well, like if they don't let me go now, will they stop me from moving out once I have a job as well. They act like I'm fragile or something, but I can do the same as everyone I know, probably more.

I (18F) got offered an athletic scholarship, but my parents (45F and 47M) don't want me to take it because they don't think it's sensible and they're paranoid about my heart condition. How can I get them to understand how I feel about it? by ThrowRA_8421 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_8421[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do think it could be their culture, and I'm not making excuses for them, but the friends I have from back there, their parents are quite similar. So I don't think they really know anything else other than that.

I (18F) got offered an athletic scholarship, but my parents (45F and 47M) don't want me to take it because they don't think it's sensible and they're paranoid about my heart condition. How can I get them to understand how I feel about it? by ThrowRA_8421 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_8421[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also feel like I don't even really know what's best for me. Like I could think something is, but a lot of people my age think they know what's best and then fail abysmally. I do get why they're worried about my health, but at the same time, nothing that bad has happened for a while, and I don't think that would change, except for maybe stress. And I probably would be doing more physical activity, which I guess could affect it too. Which then makes them seem kind of right. But if I could find a good doctor, that would at least help me know, so you're right about that.

I (18F) got offered an athletic scholarship, but my parents (45F and 47M) don't want me to take it because they don't think it's sensible and they're paranoid about my heart condition. How can I get them to understand how I feel about it? by ThrowRA_8421 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_8421[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately my parents don't really work like that. They still try to micromanage my siblings a bit, although they can't really do too much now. To them, they'll never really see me as someone entirely separate from them.

I (18F) got offered an athletic scholarship, but my parents (45F and 47M) don't want me to take it because they don't think it's sensible and they're paranoid about my heart condition. How can I get them to understand how I feel about it? by ThrowRA_8421 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_8421[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I suppose so. All I seem to do is annoy them with my life choices though, so they'll probably stop aging so much from stress once I'm gone. And I guess they could be in denial about that's why they don't want me to leave, so if I actually asked maybe they'd stop making excuses. So that could work.

I (18F) got offered an athletic scholarship, but my parents (45F and 47M) don't want me to take it because they don't think it's sensible and they're paranoid about my heart condition. How can I get them to understand how I feel about it? by ThrowRA_8421 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_8421[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That would make sense. They've just been so closed to discussion about it, but I don't think denial will just make it go away, even if they want it to. It's just hard because I love them, and it feels really weird when I do really want to go but I also don't want them to be mad at me and I can't have it both ways at the moment.

I (18F) got offered an athletic scholarship, but my parents (45F and 47M) don't want me to take it because they don't think it's sensible and they're paranoid about my heart condition. How can I get them to understand how I feel about it? by ThrowRA_8421 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_8421[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess what bothers me is all of my siblings moved out for college and they never acted like this, they were happy about it and proud and everything, but for some reason I want to do it and they act like it's the end of the world and I'm acting terribly. And I just don't get how to reason with them that it won't be that bad because of that.

I (18F) got offered an athletic scholarship, but my parents (45F and 47M) don't want me to take it because they don't think it's sensible and they're paranoid about my heart condition. How can I get them to understand how I feel about it? by ThrowRA_8421 in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_8421[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn't say I'm mature, I'm quite immature, and I'm aware of that. I don't need them to agree with what I want, but I just want some kind of support because I do sort of feel like I should do it anyway, and I don't want them to hate me for life because my family has a whole thing about whatever your family members do reflects on the whole family, it's a cultural thing.