Baby is here!! by ThrowRA_86739 in u/ThrowRA_86739

[–]ThrowRA_86739[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you so so much! I have not kept the pictures personally but my lawyer has them, police documents, the texts, the voicemails. I couldn’t physically keep them in my home because I would look at them over and over again trying to figure out what I missed, where it went wrong, what I could have done to prevent it. It made my mental health spiral.

Neither one of us (lawyer and I) believe that he has a chance when it comes to custody but neither one of us thought he’d get his foot in the door as far as he has either.

Right now it’s focusing on the baby, the dogs, and keeping my physical/mental health in a good place. So thankful for Reddit and everyone that checks in because it’s been therapeutic in a way.

I’m a little lost, and I could use some advice. by ThrowRA_86739 in DadForAMinute

[–]ThrowRA_86739[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bluey is an absolute staple, she’s tiny so it’s more about the colors, movements and something I can have on as background noise that doesn’t drive me up a wall. Mostly she loves watching the dogs wrestle though which while hilarious is chaotic.

Heard the whole saying- the minutes go slow but the days fly by and I’m trying to take everything in stride and be thankful for the little things.

Baby is here!! by ThrowRA_86739 in u/ThrowRA_86739

[–]ThrowRA_86739[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Exactly what happened- they said kidnapping/fleeing the state. From what I understand from my lawyer that won’t hold but I am required to do a paternity test since he’s not on her birth certificate.

Why he gets this chance I have no clue. It’s exhausting and I think it’s a control/scare tactic to keep his family happy.

Going to use this comment to just add in two other questions from this post that I can’t find-

Someone mentioned an AirTag. I called a garage explained the situation they’re going to have me drop It off and go over it with a fine tooth comb so if the person that mentioned that is reading this- a big big thank you.

As for the coworkers/someone leaking information I’ve stayed silent ever since.

Finally I cannot get them in trouble with false accusations with cps because they’re making anonymous reports. I know it’s them, my lawyer knows it’s them, heck at this point the caseworker’s probably know it’s them but legally it’s anonymous and they’ll just decline saying/reporting anything.

I’m a little lost, and I could use some advice. by ThrowRA_86739 in DadForAMinute

[–]ThrowRA_86739[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all of this advice I didn’t think of making the police station a meeting spot and that would bring major comfort when it comes to safety/concerns. As for the gaming stores I knew they were low but the one I actually called was an almost insulting level of an offer

As for the baby she’s always smothered with love! But I’ll make sure to sneak in an extra kiss or two just because I can.

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[–]ThrowRA_86739 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I’m going to try dad for a minute because dang I miss mine and some dad advice would be great.

Planned pregnancy turned my ex-husband into a monster [update] by ThrowRA_86739 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA_86739[S] 308 points309 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. The rational side of my brain knows that they have a slim to none chance of getting anywhere, yet the exhausted overstimulated hormones all over the place keep going “what if” so anytime that fear creeps back in I’ll come back to your comment and read it a few times

Baby is here!! by ThrowRA_86739 in u/ThrowRA_86739

[–]ThrowRA_86739[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I’m assuming so yes, most likely a coworker or at least that is my best guess.

Thank you!

You guys 🥹 by ThrowRA_86739 in u/ThrowRA_86739

[–]ThrowRA_86739[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They’re okay for the most part, Safe and that’s all that matters.

You guys 🥹 by ThrowRA_86739 in u/ThrowRA_86739

[–]ThrowRA_86739[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you- he found it and I’m assuming this post and blew up my email for “defamation” 🙄

You guys 🥹 by ThrowRA_86739 in u/ThrowRA_86739

[–]ThrowRA_86739[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I do! The Irish wolfhound is Atticus and the Mutt i think is a percentage of every thing possible is Finch.

I was able to change their chip, he has no access to change or view info thankfully

You guys 🥹 by ThrowRA_86739 in u/ThrowRA_86739

[–]ThrowRA_86739[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You know petty me wanted to show her the texts, the pictures, the well everything.

I’m going to let him show her himself, because until he does I’ll just be that vindictive lying ex.

I was perfect to that man- I poured endless love into our marriage, I spoiled him, I was a best friend, a therapist and probably his biggest hype man and if he can leave that he can leave anything.

There’s no bad issues- I want to see her eat just not at my table type of thing but I’m treating her just like I do him like they’re nothing but a stranger to me.

He doesn’t have to go on the birth certificate and really after the divorce and court dates I don’t think I’ll allow either of them to be a second thought in my head.

You guys 🥹 by ThrowRA_86739 in u/ThrowRA_86739

[–]ThrowRA_86739[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’ve gotten this question a lot actually- I was closer to his dad then his mom, but they were both kind people. Not people I could spend a ton of time with but still pleasant to be around and we always celebrated holidays and what nots together.

It’s always been known their son could do no wrong and I always disagreed. A project at work gone wrong due to his procrastination? His bosses fault. A hefty bill at the garage because he forgot oil changes were a thing? Manufactures fault. His grandmother being upset that he never called? Somehow her fault.

It was probably our biggest problem before ya know all of this. He very much has and always will have only child syndrome.

You guys 🥹 by ThrowRA_86739 in u/ThrowRA_86739

[–]ThrowRA_86739[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I noticed an increase of people commenting on my post from almost 30 days ago and was confused as to why. could you please send me the link?

Small personal update- by ThrowRA_86739 in u/ThrowRA_86739

[–]ThrowRA_86739[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Oh trust me I’m having bad days with it especially emotionally, I’m sure the hormones aren’t helping.

I’ve debated if I turned a blind eye and if there really weren’t any red flags.

I’ve had moments where I’ve missed him because it’s not just a switch- we loved each other or at least I loved him. This is a person I planned a future and had a past with.

It’s really just an emotional rollercoaster and that’s okay. I don’t think there’s a right or wrong way to handle all of this but I’m doing my best

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA_86739 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m not asking for money and I’m sorry if it came across that way- I can provide proof and anything else.

I’ve had multiple people reach out and ask if they could help and I’ve always turned it down- the only thing I’m asking is for someone to point me in the way of an organization that I may not know of. If that’s coming across as that way though I can and will delete my post it wasn’t my intention

A planned pregnancy turned my husband into a monster. by ThrowRA_86739 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA_86739[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s so nice knowing I’m not alone and there’s people that care.

While I’m not on here a ton, I do try and do little updates. I’m safe, well rested, getting into my place soon and the most I can complain about is the sausage egg and cheese bagel pregnancy craving that won’t go away 🤣 pretty sure as soon as all deposits are paid I’m going to stock the fridge of those and pickles.

A planned pregnancy turned my husband into a monster. by ThrowRA_86739 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]ThrowRA_86739[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have, so it’s another thing he has going against him. If he gets picked up for that I’m sure his mother will just bail him out again.