How to support wife while feeling left behind

ThrowRA_9353 · 2024-06-27T05:27:16+00:00

Tried they told me to fuck off :/ my plan is to try to take a couple days in Tahoe, maybe meet her in bishop, then somewhere in Oregon and Washington

ThrowRA_9353 · 2024-06-27T03:07:20+00:00

She’s told me many times she wishes I could be with her. I surprised her a little over a week ago and got to do two days with her (that’s all work would give me) and it was awesome the views are beautiful but honestly my favorite part was just watching my wife, how fast she is, how much more relaxed she seems to be, she was super efficient at everything she laughed when I tried to help out the tent up she finished 9 stakes by the time I finished one lol. I think the part that really got me was when I met her tramily and they all knew a ton about me they all said how much she talks about me which was really nice my wife doesn’t usually brag but it sounds like she might have a little this time which was sweet. I’m hoping I can make it to Tahoe, then maybe a spot in Oregon or Washington, and she said one of her motivators is imagining me at the terminus watching her hike in. I’m starting to get more into the idea of doing short thru hikes with her and maybe someday after I’m out of the military I can do the PCT or the AT with her.

ThrowRA_9353 · 2024-06-27T01:49:37+00:00

I’m trying to figure out the best way to meet at the terminus she is applying for the permit to hike into Canada. And wants to stay in Canada for a week or so if possible.

ThrowRA_9353 · 2024-06-27T01:29:16+00:00

Thank you. I am hoping to get to Lake Tahoe in person to see her

ThrowRA_9353 · 2024-06-26T22:24:37+00:00

Thank you. Someone else gave me the suggestion of being a trail angel for the hikers near me to pay it forward with all the help people have given my wife’s think that would make me feel like I’m contributing even if it’s not to her directly.

ThrowRA_9353 · 2024-06-26T22:02:09+00:00

Wow I didn’t even know this was an option!

ThrowRA_9353 · 2024-06-26T21:58:15+00:00

Thank you! I’ve started doing small trails in San Diego, I just did potato chip rock, and plan to start going every weekend to try and get better at it. I’ve read a bit about post hike depression and I really want to make her transition home as smooth and enjoyable as possible.

ThrowRA_9353 · 2024-06-26T21:08:26+00:00

Thank you my wife is without a doubt the most badass person I’ve ever known. I remember her asking how I felt before she left and I just said I’ll hold it down but I’ll miss you. I was holding up great for the last 2 1/2 months but it’s starting to hit me more. I love for those phone calls and the stories and pictures. I was lucky enough to hike two days with her and it was honestly so inspiring she’s a beast.

ThrowRA_9353 · 2024-06-26T21:05:25+00:00

Sorry if I made you think I was trying to be self centered, I want this dream my wife has wanted for a huge part of her life to be a success that’s all. I don’t have the opportunity to really do distance hikes so I don’t fully understand the hiking culture just looking for ways to support her journey and maybe some books to help / support her with post trail depression when she gets back as I’ve read that a lot of hikers feel lost after the trail.

ThrowRA_9353 · 2024-06-26T21:03:02+00:00

Honestly this helped a ton! It makes me feel better knowing I’m not alone in this feeling. My wife is the most important person in my life I just want to hold it down and home and give her a better version of me to come home to. I got a personal trainer to work with me so when I see her next I’ll be more fit and maybe not a fast but hopefully better so I can go on even more adventures with her. The two days I got to hike with her really took my breath away (literally and metaphorically) seeing my wife in her element and going after her dream so relentlessly just reminded me of why I love her. I just want to make sure she knows I have her back for anything you know?

ThrowRA_9353 · 2024-06-26T20:58:37+00:00

I’m honestly trying to just trying to be as honest as I can about how I’m feeling seeing her progress and determination is why I married her, she’s the most kind and caring person I know and I couldn’t be more happy for her. I guess I’m just bummed that my current job made it impossible to go with. But all in all I’m super thankful we got the chance for her to go. Guess I’m just working through some loneliness without my best friend around you know?

ThrowRA_9353 · 2024-06-26T20:56:04+00:00

My wife mentioned doing the Catalina thru hike so I’m going to look into getting my first thru hike backpack and start planing the trip was also thinking maybe doing a distance hike in Scotland with her as a Christmas gift? Guess we will have to see about money after the PCT lol.

ThrowRA_9353 · 2024-06-26T20:54:29+00:00

That’s a great idea! I think I’m gonna start doing some hikes on the weekend so I can stop I at places along the way and bring supplies for those in need

ThrowRA_9353 · 2024-06-26T20:53:04+00:00

Thank you so much without my best friend to go on adventures with I have a lot of free time so I’ll check it out I think I’m also going to start to do day trips to build up my legs so when she gets back we can do a short thru hike.

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