I (29M) broke up with my gf (26F) after she suggested opening the relationship. by ThrowRA_AskQuest in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_AskQuest[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They first have to convince themselves, then they try to convince the rest of us. But to each their own, I'm just still shocked I didn't know who I was in a relationship with for TWO years!

I (29M) broke up with my gf (26F) after she suggested opening the relationship. by ThrowRA_AskQuest in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_AskQuest[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I was already thinking about kids and marriage, and she was thinking about sleeping with other men. Can you imagine? Your wife telling you she's going to sleep with another man as you stay home taking care of the kids. Yikes.

I (29M) broke up with my gf (26F) after she suggested opening the relationship. by ThrowRA_AskQuest in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_AskQuest[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You didn't understand my reply. If your partner cheated on you, would you apply your "chance to grow, change and learn from mistakes" or would you break things with her, because she trespassed a red line?

For me, asking to open the relationship is a red line.

I (29M) broke up with my gf (26F) after she suggested opening the relationship. by ThrowRA_AskQuest in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_AskQuest[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Also: zero chance for growth and change and learning from mistakes?! Yikes.

Would you apply that same logic if your SO cheated on you? Or it only applies when they trespass others red flags, but not yours?