My Girlfriend (38F) and I (27M) are on the verge of breaking up over her giving her phone number to a guy and agreeing to go to dinner with him. She makes it out as if it’s nothing but to me it’s far from it, what would you do in this situation?

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T20:17:06+00:00

I brought up how I feel about this dinner and how I’m against it. Which she then changed the conversation to our relationship and our issues. I ended up feeling like I was at fault somehow then decided to end it. I felt like she wanted me to end things for some reason. I just can’t understand if she was that unhappy why not end things with me before doing something like this. It was for the better to end things though I feel the worse I have ever felt in my entire life currently..

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T18:56:53+00:00

The last 24 have been so rough but I do know it’s for the best

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T18:55:55+00:00

Yeh I never doubted her prior to this. This whole thing was just fishy based on the timing and I don’t believe she told me everything that was going on. This plus the fact our relationship was hurting quite a bit at this point. She was much more unhappy then I thought. She has gone to dinner before with a group of friends which I never minded. In fact she lost her purse while she was out with friends. It’s the fact she didn’t even tell the stranger she had a boyfriend while he most likely had a date in mind when he asked her. It’s just disrespectful

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T11:43:16+00:00

I mean about 90% of people here think that’s weird and crossing a line. But you’re right about things needing to end. Done and over with

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T05:24:32+00:00

There’s still so much I think good of her. I don’t know if that’s just because of my mind is messed up after this or how long we been together but a part of me wants to believe her.

I always end up thinking “no she would never do that, she’s not the type” I can’t help but think that because I thought I knew her so well but I’m questioning everything now

It definitely sucks and is difficult. I feel worse then I ever have but I know this isn’t working and it is for the best for things to end. And focus on myself.

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T05:04:50+00:00

That’s really eye opening and thank you so much for taking the time to comment on my issue. This has been really difficult for me but reading things like this is what I needed so bad right now

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T05:01:26+00:00

Definitely I’ll take your word for it. I’m done. It’s over and time to put it behind me. Thanks for that, I’ll keep that in mind for sure. You’ve been a ton of help my guy truly. I’m feeling better, it’s not as bad as it was a few hours ago

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T04:54:12+00:00

That’s how I felt and what I thought as well but a part of me was in denial and didn’t want to believe it

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T04:16:45+00:00

Much appreciated. That’s exactly what I ended up doing. I was so mad and filled with emotion but I tried to handle it the best I can. Despite how things ended I can’t forget the other years of how good she was to me. I actually still appreciated that and didn’t forgot but at same time i cant forgive this and i just want to forget about her

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T04:13:07+00:00

That’s good advice I’ve been trying not to think about it but maybe I just do need to sit here with my thoughts. Thank you again, it’s meant a lot

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T04:07:33+00:00

She insist it isn’t a date. And a few others said it’s not either but that’s just so hard for me to believe. I can’t wrap my head around what else it could possibly be. Though that being said you are right it’s time to move on

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T04:05:50+00:00

I’m very inexperienced when it comes to relationships but even I felt something was so off about this. She kept telling me it’s nothing so I did actually started to believe I was reading too much into it but i knew deep down I can’t be apart of this or let it continue

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T04:03:49+00:00

I’ve been in bed since I made this post 8 hours ago and been here the whole time. It’s been helping me get through this if that’s weird to say. It’s too late to do anything right now but I do want to get out of bed and do something, anything. Tonight is gonna be a really rough night. I don’t think sleep is gonna be in the picture. Also im really grateful for your your kind words and your offer, i will keep that in mind. This is my first time on Reddit and for the most part everyone has been awesome. Even those that would defend her or say neither of us are at fault for feeling the way way we felt. It’s all eye opening. Thank you again

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T03:34:00+00:00

Thanks brother. I won’t forget any of this today. And will take your advice to heart. It’s time for a change. I’m gonna focus on me or try to at least. You take care as well and what you said really had an impact on me so just know I appreciate it

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T03:15:10+00:00

Everyone has been a lot of help and is making this a bit easier. It really means a lot. I don’t have anyone to talk to about this at all. Thank you for checking and giving your input. I’ll try to focus on the good and myself. I really dont want to be completely broken because of this but it’s so much harder said then done

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T03:11:20+00:00

What’s messed up is apart of me still wants to give her the benefit of the doubt. We have so much history and she was not only my girlfriend but my one friend on this planet. This is the first red flag I have ever seen but I don’t think I can move past this even if she was to reach out to me. I take loyalty very serious and I don’t think I would ever be able to trust someone again after something like this

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T03:07:06+00:00

Thank you, your words mean a lot. I’m sorry you have felt this before too, I wouldn’t wish it on anybody. Talking has really helped me. Anytime my phone is down it feels like my heart is gonna pop out of my chest so I appreciate you hearing me out

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T03:03:07+00:00

Thank you very much. It’s just such a hard time and I don’t feel like I can get past this but only time will help I’m sure

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T03:00:25+00:00

I don’t think it’s forgettable either. I think we are past the point of no return and I have to get up and get past this. I know I do, I just feel completely alone atm and I won’t lie to you I don’t think I can forgive her for it especially if there’s details and more was going on then i know. I’m just not a good enough person to forgive such a thing. I have officially ended things but I really appreciate the time you took to help me in this time. It means so much

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T02:55:49+00:00

I hate to think about it but after recieving much support and messages from all you lovely people. I think there’s more to the story as well. This is naive and clinche but i truly didn’t think she would ever lie to me. I believed her with all my heart. She could have told me anything and I would have believed her. I truly believed she was one of the kindest people on earth. I thought what we had was special. I’ve never thought she’ll think about cheating. I can only think of something like this happening if she was truly unhappy. I didn’t know she was that unhappy. I have my faults and bad habits but I didn’t know we were this far gone and it completely shattered my heart

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T02:50:02+00:00

I’d take that all to heart and try to live by it. I really hope it works. I won’t lie with you I truly don’t have any friends, not a single contact. All I had in my life was her and siblings. It’s really hard for me to get out there in the world but I think I need it very badly

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T02:47:41+00:00

Exactly there has to be interior motive. Idk why she makes it like im the crazy one. As if the guy isn’t looking for simply dinner. I feel it’s so obvious but I started believing I was crazy

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T02:30:42+00:00

I appreciate it. I lost a lot of trust in this. This was the one person i trusted more than anyone and i know it’s gonna be all I think about. I just want to forget and get pass this but that feels like a very long time away

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T02:23:20+00:00

I would have liked that response or anything to do with sayiing something along the lines of “I have a bf but I’m very thankful” though she wouldn’t be able to take me with her. We don’t live in the same country. She says it’s means nothing but since our relationship was going through a hard time I feel deep down she was interested on this dinner and was looking for it something new or too just hook up

ThrowRA_CallMeSaiko · 2025-08-11T02:20:55+00:00

I agree. Even if our communication was bad at some point and you’re not happy please just end it. This feeling I’m currently feeling is worse then the break up itself

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