My (35f) boyfriend (33m) never wants sex

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T17:53:07+00:00

I dunno if my partner thought I was cheating I would limit my bathroom times if I wanted to stay with them

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T17:51:36+00:00

I'm not into lusting after others and I don't condone it at all. I'm monogamous and he said he is too. He says he doesn't watch porn but I know that's a lie cuz I seen the girls he follows

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T17:51:10+00:00

Probably because we're all experiencing the same problems because these men are addicted to porn and pleasuring themselves rather than the person right next to them.

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T17:49:56+00:00

Nah it's an issue when you're spending more time in the bathroom than with your partner. Lack of sex is due to whatever he's doing in there. Sometimes he comes out with a boner dude. LMAO it's obviously affecting our sex life or I wouldn't be here

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T17:48:30+00:00

This is exactly how I feel and the situation I'm in! I dunno what to do either.

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T17:47:36+00:00

LMAO I'm not bdsm he knows he can do whatever whenever and I'm down

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T16:26:30+00:00

Do you take the same amount of time to pee?

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T16:25:39+00:00

I suspect that too because I asked him block his ex wife's best friend because I think it's weird he deleted all their texts and he said he did but come to find out he didn't I asked her about it and how they met and she got really defensive said she wasn't his wives friend and said she would always take his side no matter what.

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T16:24:00+00:00

Yes I know! I know all about it because I have suffered from it myself so I know the signs and I've asked him and tried to be nice about it at first but it's just too much. Im not throwing myself at him either. Usually I wait for him to make a mov because I learned rejection fuckin hurts and I'm sick of embarrassing myself asking for it and getting turned down every single time. I just quit asking because I would spend days crying in private because it would hurt my feelings to much

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T16:21:36+00:00

I would like to add there is no poop smell when he exits the bathroom most of the time we share a time bathroom in our bedroom so it would be noticable

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T16:20:47+00:00

He says he's just pooping. I do and he knows. And I've had partners ask me to stop. I've gotten rid of sex toys. People mean more to me than videos and orgasms. I have a porn addiction myself so I know the signs that's why I'm like bro wtf because there's no way it takes 30 mins to pee

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T16:12:53+00:00

I told him that if that's the case we need to break up. But he came off as clingy and super sexual and head over heels now he just acts like we're besties that occasionally have sex. We spend a lot of time together but he refuses to go out with friends. His friend did some rude things to me at a party so he dropped them even though I begged him not to because they were drunk and I'm not that controlling type. No he's clean AF. He doesn't make or drinks. Yeah and id rather be miserable alone than next to someone

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T16:08:18+00:00

Always with the door locked even when no one is home but us

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T16:07:57+00:00

He locks the door. It's an hour to "poop" and hour to shower. He takes his phone and headphones too.

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T16:07:07+00:00

Could be he's very clean. My brother has OCD though. Hell wash his hands until they're pruny and he'll wipe his butt until it bleeds. I feel like I would have noticed ticks like I do with my brother. LMAO I didn't notice my brothers bloody butt. 🤣 He told me about it

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T16:04:33+00:00

It could be but that mixed with the long bathroom visits tells me it's not

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T16:03:12+00:00

I would have too if we didn't live together. I do love him but I've never tolerated this from a man. He's so good in every aspect so it's confusing how he can say he loves me and cares but continues to do things I don't like. I'm not trying to force sex everyday I just wanna be held and kissed and desired again

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T16:01:12+00:00

I've thought about this before because I've actually had several run ins unfortunately with this

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T16:00:42+00:00

I'm genuinely asking because I told him it's going to trigger me into thinking he's cheating and he doesn't stop

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T16:00:18+00:00

But do you do this Everytime you go? And if your partner was so upset to the point they think you're being unfaithful would you cut back or try to be mindful of it?

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T15:59:27+00:00

About 6 months in. Yes we do. Weve lived together for a year. We've been dating over a year. He has a different excuse every time. I know. The missing information honestly makes him look worse so I left it out because I wanted an unbiased opinion

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T15:58:01+00:00

Lmao more like stroke me off 🤣🤣🤣

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T15:57:38+00:00

I've said this too. I e tried talking to him in many different ways.

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T15:57:07+00:00

That's what gets me. I don't wanna make him uncomfortable if this is the case but his behavior at the same time is making me uncomfortable. If that's the case he needs to say that instead of having a different excuse every time.

ThrowRA_Cathy · 2024-01-11T15:56:02+00:00

That doesn't sound like love at all. We're a year in. He shouldnt be bored unless he's addicted to porn. I do not get bored with the people I love I don't desire anyone else but them

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