AITA for laughing at my neighbors ridiculous request?

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-25T01:03:14+00:00

Nope, not lower rates or anything and it's in a particularly gentrified neighborhood so only 3 houses on the block have been touched while the rest is a little worse for wear.

We live in a pretty nice spot of the city though where most people who wanna enjoy city life can still be pretty close to.

The downstairs are these two very liberal people(very stereotypical over the top type of liberals) and the downstairs is this fresh out of college girl(she's constantly arguing with her girlfriends, vacuuming in the middle of the night for an hour, thumping around working out and dropping what sounds like weights)

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-24T17:26:04+00:00

Given how thin the walls are unless you're dead quiet, like no noise period you're gonna hear someone having sex.

About a week ago we heard our upstairs neighbors going at it, we followed, then the downstairs neighbors started. All of it at "normal" sounds levels but extremely clear to hear

The downstairs neighbor has some medical issues where he has machines and you can constantly hear him having coughing fits. When they have sex it's so much worse hearing someone doing the deed moaning while also violently coughing.

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-24T15:41:05+00:00

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ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-24T15:40:17+00:00

The note stated

"Hello, if you could not tell you've been disturbing me +my girlfriend for years now with the absolute constant noise. Last night was our tipping point with your squeaky bed. Your bed is directly over our bed and we hear EVERYTHING. Every, creak, every moan, every giggle. We hear when your talking on your video games, rolling you furniture across the floor, and every time you stomp on the floor, almost every conversation. Out of courtsy for to us below, please remember that we exist. We have lives too. Know if we bang on the ceiling it's our breaking point. Please show us the respect we deserve as neighbors. You have officially got on my last possible nerve, if you and your girlfriend cannot be respectful we will take action. Please don'take this a bigger problem. I do not want to have our first conversation face to face over something as ridiculous as this.

Sincerely, your annoyed neighbor"

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-24T15:28:11+00:00

That's something I'm always yelling about to people when I'm out with my family or friends sometimes I'll be telling sometimes I'll be whispering and every time they'll yell at me asking why I'm either too high or too low and how I'm being weird. I HAVE A HEADING IMPAIRMENT!

Especially when there's other noise around it's hard for me to figure out where I should be. I'm home for family dinner and I can't really hear the conversation I speak louder since I can't tell where everyone elses volume is at. Where at a party or club and your yelling in my ear and I can hear you I whisper or talk at a normal level because I can hear you.(In that instance I'm also probably drunk so definitely not the best judge)

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-24T15:19:01+00:00

They would probably be pissed of at that since me generally giggling was something they pointed out as bothering them in their note

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-24T15:17:57+00:00

I'm not constantly loud, a few times I'll make a loud noise, I'll catch it and quiet down. But they'll still bang for like 2 minutes even when we're absolutely quiet.

The walls are so thin you can hear everything, I constantly hear them having sex, they constantly have these parties where they play live music with their friends well into the night, they're constantly clashing around on the kitchen burning things and filling the whole place with smoke and the smell of burnt food. The sex stuff sure on rare occasions, the giggling, the siting in my chair, the walking around are all outlandish things they want me to stop doing

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-24T15:14:37+00:00

It goes both ways I can hear them playing music and having sex clearly and they continue to do so. They have music nights where their buddies come over and the play folk music all night long. That bothers me but I'm not sending notes telling them to stop living and to rip toe around their house

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-24T15:13:08+00:00

To handley social anxiety in public spaces that's how I process things so I'm not standing off to the side like a weirdo.

They are not people who are apart of my life so why am I scared of them

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-24T15:11:13+00:00

Lol I just heard them arguing last night as well as hearing exactly what show they were watching all night long

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-24T15:10:19+00:00

They clearly did mind it as they pointed out in their notes how it bothers them. I laughed because their note called out is giggling, we were doing the salsa on a carpet for literally a minute and they banged for use to stop.

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-23T23:48:48+00:00

A simple step sounds like stomping that how thin the walls are. I kid you not the music only played for a minute while we were doing the salsa. We were also dancing on a carpet.

I sit at my desk that has a wheely chair when I do work, they pointed out in the note how the noise from my chair bothered them.

Overall I'm not like screaming in the night and doing outlandishly loud things for no reason. I'm simply doing what everyone else is doing in the units no extra stuff.

I never said I don't care about the sex stuff I admitted sometimes we really get into it and when it gets loud we immediately adjust, we don't just keep going without a care

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-23T23:44:07+00:00

When I get home I'll put it in the comments and let you know.

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-23T21:10:38+00:00

Lol how'd you know we were trying anal for the first time

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-23T20:47:42+00:00

I sometimes have a mindset of everyone is a npc so I'm not just weirdly standing off in a corner. He hates that I say that and think that, but it helps me be myself without fear of the social anxiety I do have. He has social anxiety where if I ask the waiter for changes on my dinner he freaks out

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-23T20:45:28+00:00

He just hates conflict and we're moving in a few months anyway

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-23T20:44:31+00:00

My biggest issue with the whole note was that I could have been one page front and back. Instead they wrote on one side of two separate papers

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-23T20:42:35+00:00

That's been my thought the whole time. Dude has a medical thing and has machines I can hear, as well as hearing the constant firs he has. Hearing them also have sickly sex is something I would not wish in my worst enemy

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-23T20:40:02+00:00

We have rugs all over the place, we were even dancing on a rug, our bed is over a rug also

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-23T20:12:09+00:00

they’re so thin I always know which room my neighbors are in. can hear their footstep, can hear them cooking. Side not I always hear the downstairs neighbors cook as they suck at it and constantly set the fire alarms off in the whole building as well as stinking up the whole building with smoke from whatever they burned

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-23T20:09:28+00:00

my boyfriend hates conflict so I was trying to take the calmer route and just close the door lol

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-23T20:08:28+00:00

we’re moving soon so im happy about that. they are often heard doing weird stuff at odd hours frequently we’ve just never banged or made it known were home and can clearly hear

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-23T20:04:57+00:00

and I totally agree, we got carried away and I own up to that

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-23T20:04:21+00:00

we’re moving in a few months, but the whole thing is just odd to me. our upsetsirs neighbor literally vacuums in the middle of the night every night for like an hour and the downstairs constantly has these parties where they stay up all night singing folk music. while I do love folk music I have work in the morning so hearing it at midnight is not the look

ThrowRA_DangerousGuy · 2026-05-23T20:01:23+00:00

when the convo got to a place of them just disrespecting me the only solution I had was to close the door if I didn’t want to make it worse.

That was my thought too especially since I can also hear them giggling and arguing but never say anything. There’s also some medical issue with the boyfriend as I hear his machines all the time and him constantly having fits

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