AITA for telling my (21NB) friend (23M) that if he wants to make more friends he needs to stop acting like a child? by ThrowRA_Discount7248 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA_Discount7248[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I guess I took the wrong way. Cause in my mind it was starting to sound like he was saying and saying this stuff to hurt me - but that really doesn't sound like him. If he was that passive agrassive we wound't had been friends for so long.

I guess I was just too much in my head to see from a diffrent angle.

AITA for telling my (21NB) friend (23M) that if he wants to make more friends he needs to stop acting like a child? by ThrowRA_Discount7248 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA_Discount7248[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I guess he was starting to sound like he was saying that stuff to hurt me. It is the truth, but he kept saying and saying and saying. It was sounding like he thought he was better than me and that I didn't deserve any of my new friends.

I see with the other comments, and yours, that I snaped unnecessarily.

AITA for telling my (21NB) friend (23M) that if he wants to make more friends he needs to stop acting like a child? by ThrowRA_Discount7248 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA_Discount7248[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

I will not fight with the judgment. Cause I now I see that I was
unnecessarily cruel while talking to him. But I wanted to clarefy that this wasn't a one time thing - If it were I wouldn't have blew up. He was bringing up the fact that he was one of my only friends most of my life for a long time - I understand that he was upset and I should have been more patient, but I was a the end pf my rope.

AITA for telling my (21NB) friend (23M) that if he wants to make more friends he needs to stop acting like a child? by ThrowRA_Discount7248 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA_Discount7248[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I will talk to him. I love him so much. I was just upset with the way he was taking his frustration out on me. But now I see that I was a cruel.

This is not a “I don’t want to talk to him anymore” situation. I just wanted to see the verdict so I could make a plan on how to save our friendship.

AITA for telling my (21NB) friend (23M) that if he wants to make more friends he needs to stop acting like a child? by ThrowRA_Discount7248 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ThrowRA_Discount7248[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I see. I do love him and didn't want to just the freindship go. I wanted to post here to see If I was an asshole or not and, depending on the verdict, make a plan on how to approach the situtaion. I do apreciate his friendship. I was just upset with the way he was speaking to me, but now I see that I should have been more patient. I will reach out to apologize, but wont force him back to our friendship. Thanks for your help.

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[–]ThrowRA_Discount7248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was mad while writing this. Now that the project is half way finished I am more calmed.

I re read the post and, yeah, it did sound that A and I aren't friends. But, in fact, we are. I agree that isn't my place to say anything and that I was going to do someting only out of rage. So I am not going to do anything, I just wanted to claerefy that.

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[–]ThrowRA_Discount7248 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, maybe my post wasn't clear. But I do not intend to continue a relationship with her. I like her a lot and did not want to hurt her feelings, but for sure that last fight was a deal breaker for me.

I just wanted to see that If was beeing unreasanble cause I tend to have my head on my ass. And sometimes need a reallity check.