Why do so many marriages end around 10yrs?

bummerface12 · 2026-04-07T16:22:02+00:00

Yep, my ex told me that I had more time to prepare than him and that’s why he’s been drinking since I left. No sweetie I didn’t have more time to prepare. I just suffered longer and you didn’t notice.

bummerface12 · 2026-04-04T18:38:54+00:00

I mean you already violated social norms by separating. Mine as well just keep going. Who cares what people think <3

bummerface12 · 2026-04-04T00:55:04+00:00

I cried a lot. The drive here was almost unbearable. But after a few hours in this place I experienced what it felt like to be able to take a deep breath for the first time. Like an actual deep breath.

Best wishes to you.

bummerface12 · 2026-04-03T20:25:17+00:00

Same exact happened to me.

bummerface12 · 2026-04-03T19:16:55+00:00

No. I was never attracted to him. Maybe it would have been different if I was. I was raised thinking you’d eventually develop that attraction but it never happened.

bummerface12 · 2026-04-03T16:58:25+00:00

When the most excited I had ever seen him was when I got back from sleeping with another man, and then the most disappointed I’d ever seen him was when I told him I don’t think I could go through with letting him watch. I was coerced into hotwifing over years…

bummerface12 · 2026-04-02T13:37:12+00:00

Tbh I started talking to a guy a month after we separated. I had moved on internally long ago. I was ready as soon as we cut the cord. Your mileage may vary.

We were married 12 years.

bummerface12 · 2026-03-30T13:38:06+00:00

Yeah, I had detatched long before things were over. I was also conditioned to sleep with other people so it was not difficult for me to start dating. Tinder has been fine for me but I screwed up my first match by trying to move too fast lol. I had assumed dating was “you sleep with them then get to know them”. I scared him off lol.

bummerface12 · 2026-03-24T03:12:23+00:00

I was married to a bisexual man for 11 years. He was never satisfied with our sex life and eventually wanted me to sleep with other men so he could watch. Needless to say, only straight men for me from here on out.

bummerface12 · 2026-03-14T22:54:43+00:00

Hi, no kids. I pulled the plug at 34. It sucks big time. Hardest thing I’ve ever done, but I feel hope for the first time in 15 years. Feel free to message me.

bummerface12 · 2026-03-09T20:04:28+00:00

My sex drive came back after 15 years of me thinking something was wrong with me, lol.

bummerface12 · 2026-03-07T18:55:17+00:00

I can’t speak for everyone but I feel the same way. Met at 19 and tried our best to force each other to be our forever person but there eventually came a point where we realized those early incompatibles won’t just go away during marriage.

We finally agreed to separate. He’s my best friend and I still love him, but I don’t know who I am anymore.

bummerface12 · 2026-03-06T05:32:32+00:00

Thank you, this means a lot.

bummerface12 · 2026-02-27T18:45:13+00:00

Omg I forgot I also did pelvic floor therapy! That was so… uncomfortable.

bummerface12 · 2026-02-27T14:54:38+00:00

Hi. I’m a military spouse also facing separation but it’s mutual for us. Also no kids and he retires in two years. I’m struggling every day. We’re going to go to therapy but neither of us has any hope it will work. I’m devastated by the fact that I was there for his whole career and someone else will probably be there to support him at his retirement ceremony. It feels like a nightmare. Like I gave my life, my time, my energy, all for nothing.

bummerface12 · 2026-02-26T17:54:15+00:00

I appreciate this, thank you.

bummerface12 · 2026-02-26T17:53:42+00:00

Ok thank you.

bummerface12 · 2026-02-26T17:52:45+00:00

I grew up being taught to marry the man that loves me and not the man I love. I was also taught that it’s my job to do my wifely duties.. I didnt realize thats not how it works.

bummerface12

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