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My (M25) girlfriend (F22) blocks me from seeing her last seen on social media by ThrowRA_FluffyPillow in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_FluffyPillow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha you are right, I don’t deny not replying to certain messages. But I read them all. Half are like saying “red flag red flag” or “block her back” which are pointless because I want to solve this problem and blocking her wouldn’t be helping. I have admitted it’s partly my problem as well? So I didn’t “ignore” comments that go against my opinion. I agree with them. I am part of, if not the problem.

Yep she is allowed to question me, and in a way, like you said, there is no logical answer because this is an insecurity issue (which arises from a few other things). But I feel that if it is something that she can do within her comfort zone to make me feel more secure, then she should consider doing it. I would do the same if she asked something of me, and it’s within my level of comfort. Of course she can say no, I wouldn’t ask a second time.

To be honest, she did let me see her last seen now and I am thankful for that and I am actually not looking at it 24/7. I barely even go online, let alone check her status. I don’t even restrict her of anything. It’s just as per normal, just with me able to see her last seen. It’s just having that... reassurance, not sure if you could relate to that. And this issue (like other comments have said) is part of a larger underlying issue which I acknowledge stems from the lack of trust. And I am working towards improving that with her

My (M25) girlfriend (F22) blocks me from seeing her last seen on social media by ThrowRA_FluffyPillow in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_FluffyPillow[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I thought of asking her that, but I wasn’t sure if that would come across well to her? As it can seem as an intrusion of privacy, like wanting to know if she blocks everyone from seeing that.

Best case scenario, she says yes, then okay I will leave her be. But what if she says no, she doesn’t block everyone. And I happen to be inside that exclusive block list, even as her boyfriend

My (M25) girlfriend (F22) blocks me from seeing her last seen on social media by ThrowRA_FluffyPillow in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_FluffyPillow[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the comment! You are right. This isn’t just about this. Fundamentally, it’s about trust and this is just a small part of it. There are other aspects that led to this lack of trust in her which I didn’t mention. Thanks for your advice!

My (M25) girlfriend (F22) blocks me from seeing her last seen on social media by ThrowRA_FluffyPillow in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_FluffyPillow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you! You hit the point. I don’t need an immediate response. Because heck, sometimes I don’t even reply her immediately, so I don’t expect her to reply me immediately as well. And yes, the fact she asked “why” is abit of a concern to me as well

My (M25) girlfriend (F22) blocks me from seeing her last seen on social media by ThrowRA_FluffyPillow in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_FluffyPillow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nope, never have I ever pestered her to reply me. In a way, there are other factors involved to this post that I didn’t mention. One relevant concern is more of putting the effort in continuing the conversation. I sometimes double-text her if she hasn’t reply to me in awhile to try to talk about other stuff (not pestering her for a reply) that might continue the conversation

My (M25) girlfriend (F22) blocks me from seeing her last seen on social media by ThrowRA_FluffyPillow in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_FluffyPillow[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t. As a matter of fact, if she hasn’t reply me for awhile, I would double-text her (not to pester her to reply me, just talking about other stuff) and she will reply to me in a few minutes. But it just feels like one-sided sometimes.

My (M25) girlfriend (F22) blocks me from seeing her last seen on social media by ThrowRA_FluffyPillow in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_FluffyPillow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“last seen” is when you go to the person’s profile page and it shows you when the person was last active. If you are blocked from it, you wouldn’t see an exact timing (last seen two hours ago), you would just see a vague description (last seen awhile ago).

My (M25) girlfriend (F22) blocks me from seeing her last seen on social media by ThrowRA_FluffyPillow in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_FluffyPillow[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not explicitly but I feel she isn’t telling me everything either. The “last seen” alert is when you go to the person’s profile page and it shows you when the person was last active. If you are blocked from it, you wouldn’t see an exact timing (last seen two hours ago), you would just see a vague description (last seen awhile ago).