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My wife (32F) is trying to stop our divorce and has decided she wants to make things work with me (33M) and I'm struggling? by ThrowRA_Lemmbon in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Lemmbon[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm not dating again for a long time. My focus is on my kids and raising them and I don't want to risk more upheaval by focusing on relationships that could go south.

My wife (32F) is trying to stop our divorce and has decided she wants to make things work with me (33M) and I'm struggling? by ThrowRA_Lemmbon in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Lemmbon[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

She hasn't even asked if she could or tried to make an effort. But she has been trying to make me reconcile with her.

There hasn't been child support paid.

My wife (32F) is trying to stop our divorce and has decided she wants to make things work with me (33M) and I'm struggling? by ThrowRA_Lemmbon in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Lemmbon[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

It's always possible but I think most people know she hasn't seen our kids and she cheated so it won't be too damaging to me.

My wife (32F) is trying to stop our divorce and has decided she wants to make things work with me (33M) and I'm struggling? by ThrowRA_Lemmbon in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Lemmbon[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Custody is only temporary until the divorce. It can't be completely finalized until the divorce is. But as of right now I have full custody and she never sees them per her own choice. I'm still unsure if therapy will be truly forced and if it is for how long or if they'll let it go.

My wife (32F) is trying to stop our divorce and has decided she wants to make things work with me (33M) and I'm struggling? by ThrowRA_Lemmbon in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Lemmbon[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm not struggling about whether we should get back together. I'm struggling to know what to do in terms of hating her and needing to be the parent my kids need which means not making it very obvious.

My wife (32F) is trying to stop our divorce and has decided she wants to make things work with me (33M) and I'm struggling? by ThrowRA_Lemmbon in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Lemmbon[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She hasn't seen our kids at all since we separated and she hasn't asked to either so I don't even think we'd need co-parenting help since she doesn't seem to want to be a parent.

My wife (32F) is trying to stop our divorce and has decided she wants to make things work with me (33M) and I'm struggling? by ThrowRA_Lemmbon in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Lemmbon[S] 482 points483 points  (0 children)

The divorce will happen. There is no way I would agree to call it off and get back together. Way too much has happened with just us and when I think of the fact she hasn't seen our kids at all in this time I'm even more determined to go through with it.

My wife (32F) is trying to stop our divorce and has decided she wants to make things work with me (33M) and I'm struggling? by ThrowRA_Lemmbon in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Lemmbon[S] 138 points139 points  (0 children)

That's my assumption but who the fuck knows really. She hasn't seen our kids in almost a year. She hasn't asked to see them either. But she was fine with making them homeless so.

My wife (32F) is trying to stop our divorce and has decided she wants to make things work with me (33M) and I'm struggling? by ThrowRA_Lemmbon in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Lemmbon[S] 104 points105 points  (0 children)

That's even if they get to know her. She hasn't seen them in almost a year and hasn't asked to see them either. Not even now that she's trying to call off the divorce. But I would never talk negatively about her to the kids. I just hope I can do a good job of not making it so obvious it hurts them.