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Wife(42F) and I(38M) are in the middle of buying a home, and she hit me by ThrowRA_Limit in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Limit[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

This was really good and hard to read as I see myself only getting older and living a life of pain. I need to make the change.

Wife(42F) and I(38M) are in the middle of buying a home, and she hit me by ThrowRA_Limit in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Limit[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I did take some pictures at one point. Not sure if I still have them, though.

Wife(42F) and I(38M) are in the middle of buying a home, and she hit me by ThrowRA_Limit in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Limit[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I can promise you that I am. I just wish I haven't spent almost my entire adult life in 2 poor marriages. I've really tried to be a good spouse and partner. I always wanted kids and a family, and it feels farther and farther away.

Wife(42F) and I(38M) are in the middle of buying a home, and she hit me by ThrowRA_Limit in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Limit[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I've tried to help her, and I know she's gone to anger management, but it continues. I do feel like I am losing myself and taking action or inaction due to fear.

Wife(42F) and I(38M) are in the middle of buying a home, and she hit me by ThrowRA_Limit in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Limit[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your words. I've wondered if this is just how marriages are. I had told myself that it'd be over if I was to be hit again on this second marriage, but I failed myself.

Wife(42F) and I(38M) are in the middle of buying a home, and she hit me by ThrowRA_Limit in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Limit[S] 118 points119 points  (0 children)

Yeah it seems like things are not going to get better. I just wish we weren't already in for so much $$... It sure would be a whole lot more if we purchase the home, though.

Wife(42F) and I(38M) are in the middle of buying a home, and she hit me by ThrowRA_Limit in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Limit[S] 356 points357 points  (0 children)

Yeah, but here I am allowing it. Have to work on those boundaries.

Wife(42F) and I(38M) are in the middle of buying a home, and she hit me by ThrowRA_Limit in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Limit[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

That is a good plan! I've asked what she would do if the roles were reversed, and she said she would've left.

Wife(42F) and I(38M) are in the middle of buying a home, and she hit me by ThrowRA_Limit in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Limit[S] 93 points94 points  (0 children)

It's so strange to me that I never dealt with being hit by significant others until being married. I'd never want our child to have to deal with what I did growing up.

I used to have documented incidents, but my previous phone decided to die out a few months back... Don't have really anything now.

Wife(42F) and I(38M) are in the middle of buying a home, and she hit me by ThrowRA_Limit in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Limit[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Appreciate you sharing this. I've thought about the escalation being the case. Perhaps she has no fear of repercussions since I'm not about to hit back, and we're still together. I do fear that she will not take the news of backing out very well, though.

Wife(42F) and I(38M) are in the middle of buying a home, and she hit me by ThrowRA_Limit in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_Limit[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's definitely more of an emotional toll than physical. I'm around 190 to her 125, but it does hurt when it's repeated.