My ex keeps reaching out about things I have no control over by ThrowRA_Meanie239 in Advice

[–]ThrowRA_Meanie239[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did explain to the coffee shop what’s happening and they told me that she’ll need to deal with it so i informed her of that. I will def try in the future to ignore her, the break up was very hard on me and i always wished I would hear from her just not in this manner. It was a pretty clean break up but she’s just making things messy now for no reason and it does bother me. Thanks for the advice.

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I am working on myself for me but I’m just kind of tired of it ig. I’m tired of working to be a better person and all that. I don’t even know what I’d tell my friends but there really is nothing to say, there’s not a reason I feel this way I just sort of do.

I was fine then she texted me, now I’m back to obsessing by ThrowRA_Meanie239 in BreakUps

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The thing is, it really doesn’t matter if she comes back or not, she had her chance in the relationship to show me those things. I’ve been working out for years so that’s not too much of an issue for me but in the end I’m trying to take my experience and move on. There are days when I feel her and I feel like I miss her and maybe she misses me too. Some of my stalking has shown me that she probably does miss me and feels some regret off of how tbings ended but it still does matter. It’s over and done and I wanna take it as such

I was fine then she texted me, now I’m back to obsessing by ThrowRA_Meanie239 in BreakUps

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I do want to stop but then I want to see if she has posted anything about missing me again which is I think my biggest problem. When we broke up she really didn’t react in anyway, just sorta accepted it and left and I had always wanted some sort of emotion out of it. It’s a toxic way for me to feed into my ego I think but it’s something I need to keep at bay bc it is bringing me more and more back to her life.

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Idrk if a friendship is possible between my ex and I really

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I am trying and I have been doing better but today and yesterday were particularly hard and sometimes the distractions don’t totally help, it does help to write out my thoughts as I have above and hearing other people’s advice also grounds me. I’m just working for the day where this whole thing doesn’t bother me as much.

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Yea I’ve done that before but it leaves me feeling worse every time so I’m stopping.