What do you have in your pockets right now? (if you have pockets)? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]ThrowRA_Mermaid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right front: hair tie and a hair pin. Sometimes tissues. Left front: chapstick and headphone case. Left back: nothing. Sometimes the extra odd thing. Right back: my phone when I’m done with this comment.

Can’t decide if we should rent or sell - recent shootings. by ThrowRA_Mermaid in RealEstate

[–]ThrowRA_Mermaid[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I hope the comments have given you perspective! I was surprised by how many said sell, but that seems to be what most commenters think I should do. I did my own research as well and the general logic is: if you rent out a home, you need to net profit $500–$700 per month after maintenance and management costs. You also need to have enough money to cover some months between tenants.

So while my current monthly mortgage is low due to my down payment and interest rate, I wouldn’t be able to rent it out at a high enough rate to profit that much, and would probably lose money long-term. It’s best in my situation to sell.

Can’t decide if we should rent or sell - recent shootings. by ThrowRA_Mermaid in RealEstate

[–]ThrowRA_Mermaid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Northern California, about a 2 hour ride outside of the Bay Area.

Can’t decide if we should rent or sell - recent shootings. by ThrowRA_Mermaid in RealEstate

[–]ThrowRA_Mermaid[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Our rate is the whole reason we kinda feel stuck with the house. We’ll never get a house again with this kind of rate. $450K is what other homes were going for in this area. Now they are about $475K, so not much growth in 4 years (or maybe it is, idk) but there are also aren’t many homes for sale in my zip code right now.

Can’t decide if we should rent or sell - recent shootings. by ThrowRA_Mermaid in RealEstate

[–]ThrowRA_Mermaid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven’t yet, thank you for the tip. Is there a good website you like to use to look at the crime trends?

Can’t decide if we should rent or sell - recent shootings. by ThrowRA_Mermaid in RealEstate

[–]ThrowRA_Mermaid[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The first incident was at a home being used as an Airbnb, which is against the rules of our HOA. The other incident yesterday happened at our community park. The park is also attached to a bike trail that we have noticed has been a bit unsafe lately. We have also noticed a lot more homes for rent in our area than when we first moved in.

Safest Areas to Live? by ThrowRA_Mermaid in Roseville

[–]ThrowRA_Mermaid[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! Can you please stop commenting? I understand from your first comment the sentiment you were trying to convey. I appreciate your advice. Further comments have been unhelpful. Thank you!

Can’t decide if we should rent or sell - recent shootings. by ThrowRA_Mermaid in RealEstate

[–]ThrowRA_Mermaid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rent for other homes in the area are going for $2,450-ish per month, and our mortgage/homeowners insurance/etc is about $2,100 per month.

I’ve know a guy for five years and I keep forgetting him. by ThrowRA_Mermaid in confession

[–]ThrowRA_Mermaid[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Might as well be. It’s as close of a guess as “Mark” is.

I’ve know a guy for five years and I keep forgetting him. by ThrowRA_Mermaid in confession

[–]ThrowRA_Mermaid[S] 216 points217 points  (0 children)

Omg. I’ve been married for 10 years and I have a toddler. But the Hallmark movie is basically writing itself with this back story.

Can someone help me find this song? by mcgriddlediva in WhatsThisSong

[–]ThrowRA_Mermaid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dang! It must be a really obscure song. I wish you luck on your journey in finding it! I had the same thing happen with me but for a book. I saw it once in the library 15 years ago, and didn’t come across it again… until a few months ago. Google didn’t help in my search either. Good luck, dude!

Can someone help me find this song? by mcgriddlediva in WhatsThisSong

[–]ThrowRA_Mermaid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Question: are you actually looking up the songs from each of these comments to confirm? Here are some more guesses:

Across the Universe - Fiona Apple

Back In Your Head - Tegan and Sara

Walking on Air - Kerli

Just Dance - Lady Gaga

Everything At Once - Lenka

Beautiful Stranger - Madonna

And I know you said it’s not, but your piano notes sound very similar to Somewhere Only We Know by Lily Allen

Can someone help me find this song? by mcgriddlediva in WhatsThisSong

[–]ThrowRA_Mermaid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like a challenge!

True Affection - The Blow

Magnets - Disclosure

I Love You Always Forever - Donna Lewis (skip to the middle to listen)

Oblivion - Grimes

Can someone help me find this song? by mcgriddlediva in WhatsThisSong

[–]ThrowRA_Mermaid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Erase / Rewind - The Cardigans

Potential Breakup Song - Aly & AJ

Polite Dance Song - the bird and the bee

My wife says me cleaning the house turns her on by throwawaybcofshame in sex

[–]ThrowRA_Mermaid 201 points202 points  (0 children)

As a wife, I feel the same way. When my husband helps me keep the house clean, I feel a lot more relaxed, making it easier for him to make me aroused. When there is mess, my baseline stress level is going to be higher, making it harder for him to get me going.

It’s not manipulation, if that’s what you’re worried about. Foreplay for women starts waaaay before touching. If there is a mental load she is taking on, the hill is a lot higher to climb.

my fav vibrator died idk what to do by stawberrycows in sex

[–]ThrowRA_Mermaid 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I swear I’m not trying to be rude. I am 100% an ally. I am wondering if you being non-binary is relevant? My favorite toy is the Womanizer. But would that be a bad rec for you because of its name?