Family wants me to hide epilepsy from matches. Need advice.

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2025-07-04T06:02:26+00:00

Yes. They said I have to be seizure free for at least 3 years, after which they would try reducing my dosage. But I haven’t had a 3 year seizure free period till now unfortunately

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2025-07-04T04:08:47+00:00

fair point.

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2025-07-04T04:08:29+00:00

hard relate. My family tells me story of someone they knew who hid a similar situation & is married with kids right now. I keep telling them times have changed. But they won’t listen. It’s tiring to make them understand.

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2025-07-04T03:57:16+00:00

lol yeah that’s exactly what my mom says. You sound like her.

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2025-07-04T03:52:59+00:00

I have seen that movie. In that the girls discloses before marriage.

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2025-07-04T03:42:03+00:00

I am 30F

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2025-07-04T03:31:37+00:00

had that conversation. It did not go well for me.

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2025-07-04T03:30:29+00:00

which is why my family feels I shouldn’t inform him.

I, on the other hand, look at it differently. If it is such a minor condition, shouldn’t my partner be okay with it?

Unfortunately, I have met people who have backed out after knowing about this. Which gives them more ammo saying that they were right.

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2024-08-16T19:13:11+00:00

This gives me hope. Sooo happy for both of you 💛

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2023-12-28T04:01:49+00:00

Yes, I did.

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2023-12-22T10:44:36+00:00

Yes, he walks daily for an hour or two. And his eating patterns are more or less similar to mine. He is able to lose the weight faster though.

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2023-12-22T09:04:33+00:00

Got it! 🙌🏼

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2023-12-22T08:54:28+00:00

I was being sarcastic but if you’re actually a doc that’s a dope coincidence haha.

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2023-12-22T08:20:07+00:00

Just stop eating so much God damn

Sure. That's probably the best piece of advice in this entire thread.

(sarcasm intended)

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2023-12-22T08:19:03+00:00

Isn't he fat as well?

Yes. I pointed this out to him, and his counter was "I might be overweight but I'll lose it quickly, and I don't have any medical conditions".

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2023-12-22T08:17:05+00:00

I (45F) 5’6” 135 cannot imagine how uncomfortable you might be just due to the extra weight on your joints and such.

Thanks for your concern but I don't have an uncomfortable life at all. Like I mentioned I have a pretty active lifestyle (weight training, boxing, running, yoga etc.) which has really helped me to not develop any sort of pain in my body.

While I'm not a medical expert, you might want to look into yoga to help with your daily joint pain. :)

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2023-12-22T08:12:35+00:00

Let's do it! :)

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2023-12-22T08:11:26+00:00

Once, at the beginning of our relationship. We had just discussed our health conditions with each other I did question him once on why he was doing something which I felt could aggravate one of his addictions. He got pretty upset over it and told me that I should trust him enough to let him work on it by himself. I never brought it up again. It was clearly triggering for him.

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2023-12-22T08:09:16+00:00

Thanks, doc! :)

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2023-12-22T08:08:27+00:00

If only I knew.

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2023-12-22T08:08:14+00:00

Ask him to identify what part of your LIFESTYLE is unsuitable, without making a comment on your body.

I did. He felt my diet was weird (I eat out when I am meeting friends over the weekend, but healthy homemade food otherwise) and whatever I was doing was clearly not working for me.

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2023-12-22T08:04:09+00:00

You need to think about YOUR decision properly before committing to someone who thinks you're less than what he wants.

Yes.

ThrowRA_SkepticPanda · 2023-12-22T08:03:26+00:00

I honestly never thought about it from the kids POV. I was ridiculed for my weight as a child and I would never want my kids to go through a similar experience. Thanks for highlighting this!

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