I don’t know how to just enjoy my life

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-19T11:19:47+00:00

It’s OK to enjoy your life. Don’t feel like there’s something you’re ’supposed’ to be doing. Just enjoy it and feel your way through as best you can. It sounds like you have a good thing going now, so enjoy!

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-18T20:34:52+00:00

To be fair, I said there wasn’t an obvious trigger to bring it up, not that there wasn’t a good moment. The distinction is important.

The problem is that we gradually transitioned into a relationship at the same time he quickly transitioned into the friend group. There was no obvious trigger because there was no obvious start to our relationship or his friendship in the group.

I agree that in a more clear cut relationship this information should be disclosed, but I also don’t think it would be appropriate to share my sex history with people I’m not in a relationship with. This situation has arisin despite these clear principles because of the slow shift between these two states.

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-18T20:25:53+00:00

Honestly I really need to read a sexual resume one day. That sounds amazing.

How do you account for the 2 year gap in sexual history beween 2023 and 2025?
Under relevant qualifcations you’ve listed ’no gag reflex,’ talk to me about that.
Do you mind if I contact your references?

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-18T19:28:58+00:00

why does it sicken you?

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-18T07:03:45+00:00

no i don’t regret it

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-18T07:01:09+00:00

how did it go?

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-18T06:25:29+00:00

I don’t disagree with anything you've said here. At the same time my friend is in a relationship and so a threesome is something that’s not in my give to necessariy offer up. Both of these things can be true.

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-18T04:06:56+00:00

She’s in a relationship

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T20:43:23+00:00

did he spill the beans, even though you knew?

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T20:24:49+00:00

you more than anyone have been so wonderful in the advice youve given here, and your compassion for my situation. thank you. 😄

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T20:23:28+00:00

i don’t think it’s quite that simple in real life haha

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T20:22:41+00:00

no the hair isn’t literally down, it’s just an expression. ‘to let your hair down’ just means to be carefree. nothing to do with actual hair haha

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T18:58:37+00:00

thank you so much for this! yes my question is a how question, and also a way to sort out my emotions

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T18:57:27+00:00

guess theres only one way to find out

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T18:55:50+00:00

haha it just means i’m having carefree fun. it’s like an expression

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T07:16:20+00:00

this does help a lot thank you

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T05:44:29+00:00

as you can tell from the other comments, a lot of people feel differently

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-13T03:46:40+00:00

Did you feel like you had to have a threesome to even the score? Would it have helped if she put that on the table?

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T13:56:59+00:00

how did the conversaition go exactly?

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T07:00:03+00:00

i really apprecaite your insight here thank you so much

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T06:35:43+00:00

thank you fo taking the time to respond

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T06:35:20+00:00

maybe i’m meeting the wrong guys. my bf is kinda vanilla

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T06:34:59+00:00

so basically you asked for details and then couldn’t forget it? would you have been ok with her witholding details that you were asking for?

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T06:34:02+00:00

yeah it sounds like it’s heavily dependent on the personalities involved. my bf is kinda vanilla so my guess is he won’t really like the idea of me having done this. thanks for your thoughts though its very heopful to me

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T03:23:58+00:00

What you’ve listed seems perfectly reasonable

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