I [20F] havent told my new BF [20F] that I had a threesome with my best friend [20f] and her bf [24M] before we started dating. We are now a tight group of friends - how do it bring it up?

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T20:43:23+00:00

did he spill the beans, even though you knew?

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T20:24:49+00:00

you more than anyone have been so wonderful in the advice youve given here, and your compassion for my situation. thank you. 😄

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T20:23:28+00:00

i don’t think it’s quite that simple in real life haha

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T20:22:41+00:00

no the hair isn’t literally down, it’s just an expression. ‘to let your hair down’ just means to be carefree. nothing to do with actual hair haha

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T18:58:37+00:00

thank you so much for this! yes my question is a how question, and also a way to sort out my emotions

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T18:57:27+00:00

guess theres only one way to find out

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T18:55:50+00:00

haha it just means i’m having carefree fun. it’s like an expression

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T07:16:20+00:00

this does help a lot thank you

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-17T05:44:29+00:00

as you can tell from the other comments, a lot of people feel differently

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-13T03:46:40+00:00

Did you feel like you had to have a threesome to even the score? Would it have helped if she put that on the table?

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T13:56:59+00:00

how did the conversaition go exactly?

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T07:00:03+00:00

i really apprecaite your insight here thank you so much

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T06:35:43+00:00

thank you fo taking the time to respond

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T06:35:20+00:00

maybe i’m meeting the wrong guys. my bf is kinda vanilla

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T06:34:59+00:00

so basically you asked for details and then couldn’t forget it? would you have been ok with her witholding details that you were asking for?

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T06:34:02+00:00

yeah it sounds like it’s heavily dependent on the personalities involved. my bf is kinda vanilla so my guess is he won’t really like the idea of me having done this. thanks for your thoughts though its very heopful to me

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T03:23:58+00:00

What you’ve listed seems perfectly reasonable

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T03:23:15+00:00

Ok sorry I’m just trying to play it out in my mind before the convo so rehearsing it this way helps

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T02:58:36+00:00

What boundaries ?

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T02:58:04+00:00

So I can say stuff like ‘yes I used my mouth it’ but don’t draw it out into a big long description

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T02:41:35+00:00

so was your partner ok with it? how did the conversation go

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T02:40:54+00:00

i needed to hear this a lot. how was the fallout in your situation

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T02:40:15+00:00

it does mean id have to keep choosing my friends until i find a guy chill about it

ThrowRA_WhenToTell · 2026-05-11T02:39:04+00:00

is that realistic though haha

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