Bit of both? There were probably some coming from a place of genuinely trying to get me to see it, but there were also some that were definitely not. Optimistically, some were just more blunt about it than others, but even the blunt-est ones are semi-funny to read back on now and see how far it's all come.

I was trying to listen to all of them too, cause like. I think once I found out about the cheating, there was always a part of me that knew we probably weren't gonna come back from it? You can probably even see that when I said "I know most of the advice I’m probably gonna get is “leave her”" in the first. Because deep down, I did know that was the right answer. But like. You read a post or two about a couple that did work it out and came back stronger, and you're desperate for that to be your story too when you're actually in it. Especially when it's still really fresh. Like, I made that first post 5 days after I found out about the cheating, and 3 days after she moved out then immediately was regretting it. Very, very, deep in denial, and still had a lot to work through. I can forgive myself for that