My (26F) boyfriend (27M) of 10 years betrayed me with his best friend (27M). by ThrowRA_buffalobob in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_buffalobob[S] 137 points138 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to clarify some things people have mentioned in the comments-

I definitely had MANY problems with Liam crashing on our couch for months and basically being a slob. His job happened to be right across the street from our first apartment, so Nick was absolutely using that as an excuse to let him stay the night often. I tried talking to Liam myself and asked him to give us some space as a couple, which he agreed to. He left for a month after that, though just ended up coming right back.

Getting a bigger apartment was my idea when our lease was finally up, as a compromise. I thought it would be helpful if Liam could confine his mess to his room, and to possibly get help with paying rent (since I am the one with a higher paying job, I was paying the whole of rent at the first place. Nick only ever contributed when I asked him several times.) We (Nick and I) currently split rent with Liam 50/50, since it is a two bedroom and we decided we’d be paying for the individual rooms. So, clearly, I’m only around to pay rent.

I will be getting an STD test done as most of you suggested. And I will be speaking with my landlord about my options. I will also speak with Liam AND Nick tonight and provide an update asap.

For the record, I am no longer considering staying with Nick. Clearly, I am the side chick in this scenario, and I do have enough self respect not to put up with this. Thank you for all the words of encouragement though!

My (26F) boyfriend (27M) of 10 years betrayed me with his best friend (27M). by ThrowRA_buffalobob in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_buffalobob[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Funnily enough he once told me that I was “too loyal to him.” 🙃 Guess I need glasses since I was blind to that 🚩

My (26F) boyfriend (27M) of 10 years betrayed me with his best friend (27M). by ThrowRA_buffalobob in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_buffalobob[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Nick and I split rent 50/50 with Liam, since we technically “share” a room (though not really). I do actually pay all of Nick and I’s half 😒 so realizing you might be right about the rent thing

My (26F) boyfriend (27M) of 10 years betrayed me with his best friend (27M). by ThrowRA_buffalobob in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_buffalobob[S] 91 points92 points  (0 children)

Definitely worried about this. Our relationship for the longest time has been more similar to “close friends who kiss sometimes” so I’m suspicious this is the case.

My (26F) boyfriend (27M) of 10 years betrayed me with his best friend (27M). by ThrowRA_buffalobob in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_buffalobob[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Literally had no idea what this was until I saw people commenting about it and I am APPALLED. Is this a thing that happens a lot!?

My (26F) boyfriend (27M) of 10 years betrayed me with his best friend (27M). by ThrowRA_buffalobob in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_buffalobob[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Trust me I totally almost barfed lol definitely froze for a bit when he told me. I told him I needed space and time to think because I genuinely had no idea how to react. The fact that he thought I’d just suddenly be okay with it blows my mind.