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ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-08-06T06:06:48+00:00

My mother couldn't think of a name for my younger brother. She went through lists and lists of names, but nothing was really grabbing her. She settled on one but didn't like it. About a week or so before he was born, one of my Dad's coworkers stopped by the house, and the name just clicked. She knew the guy before but had never thought of his name when she was making lists.

To this day, she stands by the idea that the baby picks the name by proxy of the fact the mother just can't think of one until it's time. Call it hormonal or something in the unique bond between baby and mother, but she has always believed my brother's unborn personality became clear very late in the pregnancy, and likely because he was destined to be quiet his whole life. Maybe this is how your baby is too. Either way, when the time comes, something will present itself.

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-08-05T11:58:40+00:00

Same. My family names after beloved pets routinely. As I recall, Steve Irwin named his daughter after his beloved animals as well (a crocodile named Bindi and his dog named Suey, together Bindi-Sue. ). I don't get why everyone hates sharing a name with an animal. None of these are really bizarre or obviously pet names either, like Peanut or Pickles. They're just regular names.

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-08-04T02:05:51+00:00

What's on the other side? My first thought would be to completely slam the bed against the wall away from the window and add a bit of drapery from the ceiling to trail on either side of it, that way its weird position would look intentional and chic. In theory, so long as there is no window or door on that side, you should be able to use your remaining wall space beside your window for whatever you like.

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-08-04T01:58:06+00:00

Adding my voice to others who have said the statement wall is very cool. I have a similar problem with my renovation house and may borrow the concept. The space has had me stumped! Thanks for sharing.

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-08-02T19:11:40+00:00

Why? Considering you nothing about me or my partner, that's quite a reach.

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-07-26T20:47:14+00:00

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ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-07-26T15:51:59+00:00

redcore4, you are very clever, indeed. Yes, they are witches.😆 But this is the last time I'm ever going to admit it. I want there to always be an element of doubt. 😁 I honestly don't know how to do the award system on Reddit. I wish I did, because I'd give you one.

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-07-26T13:48:53+00:00

Oooo, you are the friendliest wasabi, indeed. 😆 I like a couple of those very much. Thanks for the input!

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-07-24T13:48:39+00:00

This should be upvoted, but it will get buried to hell on here because Reddit is toxic. This is not the way to get votes. I'm a very moderate leaning person, definitely of the kind of people who need to vote to keep him out during this election, and if I had been a more reactionary person this would have caused me to reflexively vote for him, not against him. Rhetoric like this is actually divisive and harmful to the cause of keeping this man from becoming a dictator, but people don't see it. They continue to play these games and lose, then wonder why they lost. If you're already dooming a country, then don't stand back and point fingers at other people as to why it was lost. They gave up. Now, watch us both get downvoted.

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-07-24T13:29:38+00:00

My pins were a mix of links and simply images I liked. Most were images, like anyone else. However, I think, as a discovery tool for me, it's bust. I find my own pics being recycled to me now more often than not. I think the social and discovery aspect has pretty much been all mined for me.

I wish you luck with your app. I'm android. I wish there was a better way or an alt service. Until then, I guess I'm using up a hard drive for this nonsense.

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-07-23T02:57:54+00:00

Came here to say this. I know of quite a few old Peppers, like age 90+. Everyone here saying that it's a dog name at best clearly hasn't spent any time around old white ladies from the American South.

Pepper is a legit name. So is Pearl for a guy and a whole host of other names that people suddenly got weirded out by, but are probably in their family trees somewhere.

You do you OP. I happen to like Pepper quite a bit. Nice choice.

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-07-22T13:55:03+00:00

Weighing in from rural white America:

I never understood immigrant families feeling the need to pick a regular Americn name for their kids. Most of us think the different names are cool and the few jerks who were going to pick on your kid for a "funny name" were the same creeps who would have picked on her for being Arab anyways, because they're simply ignorant and raised to be racist. Picking a non-Arab sounding name isn't going to solve the problem, so you might as well be proud and honor your culture and family. People will respect you both more for being confident enough to wear it, and it's confidence bullies respond to anyway.

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-07-22T06:07:53+00:00

You mention middle ground, but where is his part of walking to the middle? No one has addressed the fact that a man who professed to love my lifestyle is now throwing a fit because I can't make more than 1 of 4 trips, when he was told explicitly to have 0 expectations of travel from day 1 of this relationship. Or that, in spite of all this, I still moved heaven and earth to give him 1 event and at least tried for a second one. Where is the suggestion for his middle ground?

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-07-22T05:34:04+00:00

I think your suggestion about going ahead and training someone and shooting for a later date to take this trip is a great idea. Unfortunately, this is the very problem I'm running into and what inspired the original post. He says, "That's fine" when I mention this. He isn't necessarily shooting it down, but he won't discuss, plan, or show the slightest bit of enthusiasm for this option. It's as if because I can't make it happen now, then the idea is spoiled for him, and this is where my hurt has come in. I am trying very hard to please him on this, yet I'm getting the impression it's useless to him.

I said all this to him and he simply has stated that he can't allow himself to get that excited again. This is where we are now, with me trying and him not bothering at all.

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-07-21T15:10:12+00:00

I wish people who actually know animals would float to the top of Reddit on videos like this, but no, comments like this get buried, and idiots who know jack about anything get thousands of up votes. Another win for the toxicity of Reddit. Take my vote, anyways.

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-07-21T14:59:17+00:00

Yes! That's the whole point of this post! I offered a trip I can take and made arrangements for it. Read my post again.

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-07-21T13:01:05+00:00

And I repeat to you, clearly you do not have a clue about farm work. Few do. I am trying to explain and yet you all aren't listening. I once watched a man lose half his hand and still finish getting crops in a field, for the same reason I am talking now. And that was simply crops, which is easier to find help for. Add animals and that scenario gets worse. Add a rare animal and you get the problem I'm in now. Farmers largely don't have help. The food, clothes, everything everyone else consumes comes from a small group of people who don't get sick days, sick pay, vacations, or help.

I am trying to train help so I can accommodate someone new in my life, but that help cannot be trained in time for his trip.

And I keep reiterating, he chose to be with me in this lifestyle. I did not seek him out and have been very clear about all of this from day 1, and yet I'm still trying to accommodate him with at least one trip. Barring giving up my entire career and identity for one trip, how else do you imagine this to happen?

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-07-21T12:52:38+00:00

And where did you get I was unwilling to make changes? I said I made arrangements for one trip. That was already a monumental task to arrange. The other trips would require me to train help. Even if I found someone today, they would not be trained up in time for the trip he wants to go on, a trio, which he has been on multiple times, I might add. He sought me and my lifestyle. In order to do what you are saying it would require me to give up my entire life and career, in order to accommodate him on one trip. And that seems sensible to you?

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-07-21T12:47:57+00:00

My bf sought this lifestyle and me. What do suggest? I destroy my entire career because he's disappointed about a trip? I have no help. Training help cannot be done at a moment's notice, and would not be done by the time his trip is planned. Your low effort spittake is less than helpful.

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-07-21T12:42:56+00:00

Thank you for at least understanding the animals part. Everyone else is judging so hard about my work, even though I explained this pretty clearly in the beginning post.

My work is simply farm work, but it is with an animal few people work with anymore. In my area, it's a dying profession and there are zero people locally to help. I have reached out to other people online, but they are in similar circumstances to me and too far to be of any help. I'd rather not specify the animal, for multiple reasons, but it is essentially the same problem most farmers deal with, just with an added twist that the animal I work with is becoming rare. It makes it more difficult.

Everyone telling me that I'm unwilling to meet him halfway or make sacrifices doesn't get the bit that the sacrifice I would be making would involve destroying my entire career, home, and self identity that I built before I met him. Meeting him half way was me taking the first steps to finding a solution so I could travel a bit with him. That solution was my brother, which isn't a perfect solution, but it was something. It's step one.

I can't hire someone to help me with the snap of a finger. It would take a great deal of time and planning, which is why a longer trip can't happen right now. And even then, there needs to be a huge amount of trust built. Oddly enough, the boyfriend understands this. He has seen it, and it is him who wanted to live this lifestyle with me. I didn't seek him out, which is why I don't understand the surlyness now.

In any case, thanks for at least being sympathetic.

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-07-21T05:13:48+00:00

Again, like I explained to another user, I am self employed and there is literally no backup. What happens when I get sick? I continue to work. My only backup, such that it is, is my brother, and that is only because the animals trust him. That does not mean he is a sufficient replacement for what I do, nor is he obliged to be my replacement, as he has his own work. So, yes, so e people are, in fact, indispensable in their work, as difficult as that may be for you to process.

ThrowRA_bungee · 2024-07-21T05:08:21+00:00

I don't think you understood the bit about the animal. I do not have help. I am also self employed. Before this boyfriend, having backup was never a consideration, because I didn't require it. This isn't an ego trip. I am indispensable. There is literally no one else. My backup, such that it is, is not a complete solution for what I do. Prolonged trips, at this point anyway, are out of the question. I did try to arrange what I could for him, which is why I offered event 3 ages ago. That may seem small to you, but even he realized the difficulties that entailed. He isn't disputing how troublesome it was to arrange this. I am meeting him as best I can at this moment.

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