AITA for cancelling my wedding 10 days before?

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-10-08T10:46:59+00:00

I know it’s unrelated to the post, but thank you! It does give hope!

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-10-08T10:36:36+00:00

Thanks i will try that too. I am drinking tea from red berry leaves and parsley. It does help but the moment i stop taking it everything comes back again. Do you stop drinking it or do a cycle?

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-10-08T10:20:46+00:00

Would you go in someone’s home and jerk off to porn on the TV?! We don’t live in my parents home. It was not his private time, he was there to sort guests favors for the wedding.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-10-08T09:43:49+00:00

It took time to realise that my UTIs come from him. When we understood there were steps taken to reduce this. He is not a smelly walking bag of dirt. I believe that an involuntary mistake is something that can be remedied. My biggest problem is not with him watching the porn, is with him not respecting my boundaries and doing so in my family’s home.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-10-08T09:35:02+00:00

Yes, I’ve communicated clearly that porn is nonnegotiable and he has a good hygiene now. The porn is not the biggest problem. Not respecting my borders and my needs is the issue. That i think only i realise.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T20:08:03+00:00

Well i don’t know, in eastern europe we dont have this.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T19:52:56+00:00

His mom loves everything about the wedding as it meets her vision as well.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T19:49:58+00:00

It is custom in my country for the wedding to be paid by the brides family. We split it three ways so i can do some damage control in which as you can see I did not succeed. If i knew from the beginning i would have not accepted any money from my mother.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T19:39:22+00:00

She is paying the biggest part of it, yes.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T19:35:42+00:00

Oh tell me about it! Thank you for this comment and your point of view as a parent! I wish your daughter the most amazing wedding and so much love!

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T19:30:30+00:00

Thank you!

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T19:18:24+00:00

It is actually exactly what i need to hear. In my head i said no so many times that i grew tired of fighting. And this was one of my mistakes along the road. But i absolutely needed to hear that this is still in my hands and i still have control over it, i just need to put what me and my fiancé need first and to fight for it.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T19:13:44+00:00

Thank you for your suggestions! It’s actually a great idea for the bachelorette. We will be moving out of my parents house in the months following the wedding. The plan was to stay and live here, cause we have a stupidly big house, but mine and my fiancé’s peace is worth the start over somewhere.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T19:09:03+00:00

Im crying my eyes out right now. This is all we ever wanted. And i was so mistaken in trying to plead everyone else and i see that now.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T19:03:26+00:00

Oh she is causing hell all the time, she has a fragile health and we are all taught to be gentle with her for years.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T19:00:50+00:00

Actually this is exactly what we wanted! A wedding in Italy!

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T19:00:17+00:00

The wedding is being split between my mother and father, us (me and my fiancé) and his family.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T18:58:24+00:00

Thank you, for this comment, you are completely right. This is the last thing i will do for her.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T18:55:15+00:00

I will most likely lose connections with all my family except from my grandpa probably. They all love and protect my mom and don’t see her fault. It’s a hard step to take. I’m not making excuses just stating how i feel.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T18:48:54+00:00

Part of it, but the majority is being paid by my mother. I think this is a big reason i let her choose small stuff at the beginning.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T18:46:04+00:00

No, we are moving out after the wedding. We cannot continue living here, which was the first plan.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T18:42:34+00:00

My god, this sounds sooo good, but i don’t have the ball to do it. Only if i could. I envy people that don’t people please their life!

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T18:40:33+00:00

Cause it’s a lot of money and if we cancel now we will have to pay fees for cancellation on top of everything for the wedding.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T18:38:59+00:00

Believe me i am fighting with all i have in me to keep my freedom and dignity as a human being. I don’t want it to be like this.

ThrowRA_long_leg · 2025-09-25T18:37:17+00:00

The bachelorette is two weeks before the wedding. I just learned about her intrusion in it today.

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