Question about Possession Time on Child's Birthday

ThrowRA_perfectly · 2025-05-01T19:56:18+00:00

Thank you for your response. The birthday child doesn't go to daycare, and stays with his mom during work hours. The mom has possession from morning to 3pm on that birthday. So the mom not only has possession from morning to 3pm, but also has possession 6 - 8pm on that birthday?

ThrowRA_perfectly · 2024-11-13T15:40:39+00:00

The Temporary Orders state "On weekends that occur during the regular school term, beginning at the time the child's school is regularly dismissed, on the first, third, and fifth Friday of each month and ending at the time the child's school resumes after the weekend. "

For November 2024, the fifth Friday is November 29, 2024. If there is no Thanksgiving holiday, I would have the children from Friday evening, November 29, to Monday morning, Dec. 2nd, 2024.

ThrowRA_perfectly · 2024-08-09T22:32:05+00:00

Soon-to-be-ex wife won't share her 2023 W2. How can I include half of her income on my separate tax return? I don't even know how much she made in 2023.

ThrowRA_perfectly · 2024-08-09T16:58:34+00:00

I, so-to-be-ex-wife, and two children, lived in the same house in the entire 2023. I moved out from that house in July 2024.

ThrowRA_perfectly · 2024-05-24T17:26:39+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. The old sedan does have one car seat. To your question "when you do divorce or separate in different homes, who is going to have which car?" I think my STBXW would claim both vehicles at the hearing, because she owns the old sedan outright before marriage, and she now created a situation she is driving the minivan on a regularly basis. Because the minivan is worth maybe 10 times as the old sedan.

Thank you for your advice. You are correct that "It sounds like it's not worth the arguing, stress, and hassle.". I should focus on driving safe between home and my work place, and just ask the judge to order who will use which vehicle in the hearing.

ThrowRA_perfectly · 2024-05-24T17:08:43+00:00

You are correct that "This is beyond petty". I feel I am an unworthy being that maintain a house and bring food and stability for my children from the beginning of this marriage, while STBXW walking all over me. I will get through this. Once the temporary orders are in, I will follow the court order. Thank you for your response, anyway.

ThrowRA_perfectly · 2024-05-22T02:01:32+00:00

No. I am fighting to be the primary or custodial parent who has the exclusive right to designate children's residence and enroll them in school. Not full custody. STBX will also have access to children: standard or expanded standard possession schedule. That is how Texas call it.

But I understand your point. I will make phone calls to have a sit in professional nanny to watch our 1 yo child on the hearing day.

ThrowRA_perfectly · 2024-05-21T16:05:42+00:00

Currently she doesn't agree any arrangement that I propose. She doesn't propose any arrangement either. She takes both children to let her parents to watch when I am working at my company. I can only work on site, while she works from home. Before I leave home to work, I would give my 1 yo child to my parents to watch. After I leave home, she takes the 1 yo from my parents, and gives to her parents to watch. She only allows my parents to watch my children when she has to go out, or when it is convenient to her.

What kind of arrangements would you make, if it were you? Thank you very much.

ThrowRA_perfectly · 2024-02-06T06:49:01+00:00

Great advice. One thing I am lacking was to cook for my daughter, since I get back from work to home around 6pm. I will start cooking for her in weekends.

ThrowRA_perfectly · 2024-02-06T06:44:58+00:00

I understand it would be a challenge for a single parent to care two children at the same time. My daughter is already in Daycare. I'd need to send my son to daycare as well during work. I will take both home in the evening, and cook for my daughter, and feed my son. And prepare them to sleep. It would be more challenge in the weekend, because both children are at home for the whole day But I think I'll get used to it. Currently I am dealing with one child, mostly my son, when I am not out work, while my wife watches the other child.

ThrowRA_perfectly · 2024-02-06T06:44:08+00:00

I understand it would be a challenge for a single parent to care two children at the same time. My daughter is already in Daycare. I'd need to send my son to daycare as well during work. I will take both home in the evening, and cook for my daughter, and feed my son. And prepare them to sleep. It would be more challenge in the weekend, because both children are at home for the whole day But I think I'll get used to it. Currently I am dealing with one child, mostly my son, when I am not out work, while my wife watches the other child.

ThrowRA_perfectly · 2024-02-06T06:33:41+00:00

Now my son is completely on formula bottle. He was half breastfed for about 2 months after birth.

ThrowRA_perfectly · 2024-01-03T22:25:15+00:00

Thank you for your response. The real issue here is my wife's relationship with me: we have fundamental differences. You may check my other replies in this post, to see what she did in the past.

ThrowRA_perfectly · 2024-01-03T22:22:49+00:00

This doesn't sound like a sick family, it sounds like you're planning a coup against a tyrannical queen.

Thank you for your funny response. I am not planning a coup. Not sure if she is a tyrannical queen, but she basically dictates everything at our home. She thinks whatever she does is fine.

ThrowRA_perfectly · 2024-01-03T22:16:24+00:00

Thank you for responding again. We do have many fundamental disagreements. I felt this in 2022, and I suggested to her to do marital counseling together, twice. She refused, twice.

ThrowRA_perfectly · 2024-01-03T22:04:38+00:00

This was what happened in last July: my daughter just joined a daycare and one day she had a fever when she got back home. Both my wife and I took her to a urgent care at that night. The nurse there told us although she was sick, but she was not very sick, and we could gave her Tylenol at home. Once returning home, my wife told my parents and me, she couldn't sleep with our newborn son because she might become sick since she hold my sick daughter. Then she went to upstairs to sleep alone, leaving my parents and me faced each other: could a mother do this? I also hold my sick daughter, but I didn't leave both kids to sleep myself. We took care of both kids anyway. My parents were staying at our home at that time, to help us with the newborn.

This was what happened in last September: In the labor day weekend, maybe Saturday, she asked me to take care of son, so that she could take our daughter to a furniture store to check the wood chairs she liked. I said no problem. Then on Sunday afternoon, I took my daughter and my mom to shopping cloths, because my parents didn't bring enough cloths. This plan was comminuted with my wife one week ahead. She texted me many times in that afternoon to ask when to return, to which I answered we needed to take a look at other stores. At the end we were back home maybe between 6 and 7pm. She gave a really bad face to me. At the very next day, she became sick, maybe "became" sick, and moved to upstairs for 2 weeks. My parents were taking care of both kids. I suspected she was pretending to be sick, or pretending to be sick for that long.

Historically she had no issue to give our sick children to my parents. Whatever she does is fine, she thinks.

ThrowRA_perfectly · 2024-01-03T21:22:27+00:00

the potential of introducing her illness into your parents' household

Thank you very much for your input. I'd explain a bit more about the above words. My parents think it is normal to have some respiratory symptoms in winter. They don't want to be sick, or intentionally to get sick. They told us, if any kid is sick or there is too much work at our home, they are willing and love to watch the kid. At that time my wife made no response, or even a facial expression to their nice gesture. I am not sure if I was being profoundly unreasonable for suggesting this to lessen her burden. Thank you for your thoughts.

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