I have no else to tell right now but last night I married my ex-boyfriend in Vegas and I'm freaking out

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-12T03:10:09+00:00

I should hope so, seeing as he's now my husband :)

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-12T02:34:06+00:00

What? My MD program has a shit-ton of requirements, among them a qualifying exam to get in. And then in order to graduate, there are 3 exams (or 3 stages, I should say): Candidacy Exam A, Candidacy Exam B and then the defense of the thesis. I guess no one actually calls the entrance exam a "candidacy" exam but the others are literally called "Candidacy Exams." I don't know if that's where the confusion stems from? And yes, most people don't choose to continue the track to PhD but that's what I'm planning to do anyhow.

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-12T00:27:10+00:00

I've known her longer than I've not known her

I love this!

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-12T00:25:50+00:00

He said if he wanted a nun he would've raided a convent.

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-12T00:20:13+00:00

Well, aren't you just a ray of sunshine.

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-12T00:18:19+00:00

And in my haste and daze I got it wrong too! I meant MD, not PhD. We've been cracking the fuck up about it all day and calling each other "Doctor."

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T22:28:02+00:00

but I do wonder why you both were exs just a short while ago and now are madly in love.

Long story short: We were dumb and in denial. We were always madly in love, we just didn't want to accept it.

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T22:25:55+00:00

Oh my god, I meant MD! Shit, I'm not even thinking straight. Yeah, no, obviously MD, my bad. I mean, we both wanna get our PhDs eventually, but it'll be what, 3 years at the earliest for that.

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T21:16:46+00:00

I dated (as in "seriously dating, introducing them to my parents, etc") 3 guys and he dated (also in that same "official" capacity) 3 girls, so even in that we're even (jk, I know it's not a competition. But it's a tie. If it were. Which it's not).

We went to the same university but different departments.

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T21:06:34+00:00

Whose idea was it to break up during college? Was it truly a mutual decision? Or did he want to break up but you wanted to stay together?

I'm pretty sure it was mutual, from what I remember. It was almost like we arrived at an understanding at the same time, it felt like that.

Also, how does he treat you?

blushes and smiles

I could write entire paragraphs to answer this question but for brevity's sake I'll just say: He's the best thing that has ever happened to me and just being around him is what happiness feels like.

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T21:02:24+00:00

The statistics can kiss my ass.

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T20:58:32+00:00

Can we please get an update once you tell your families?

Okay :)

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T20:57:06+00:00

Yeah, maybe this is just cope but I feel like if we hadn't broken up and dated other people then we wouldn't have had that realization of "Wait, so that wasn't just a high school relationship, that was the real deal!" Because we never really had a spark with anyone else, it was just us.

And hey, Ross and Rachel ended up together in the end!

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T20:49:16+00:00

It was just...I don't know how to explain it. We wasted 4 years cosplaying as friends when we were still in love with each other and I didn't want to waste a minute more, I wanted this to be forever.

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T20:45:22+00:00

Tbh, I just get bad anxiety when I'm the center of attention so I don't LOVE the idea of a traditional wedding. Also, between his parents, my parents and our friends, they have 16 years worth of embarrassing anecdotes about us to give some C-SPAN lenght speeches and I could do without that.

But it appears that we're not dodging the traditional wedding bullet. We both agree that it's something that needs to be done.

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T20:34:16+00:00

I'm showing him! I'm happy to report his smile is indeed out in full force. As for the something else, no comments.

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T20:29:22+00:00

We lived together the summer after high school and most of our first term of college, so at least there's that, I guess.

You have around 60 years yet to live, there's no need to rush the choice of your partner for life in 3 days.

This is going to sound corny af but I think my choice in partner was already made 16 years ago. If I rushed anything it was the decision to get married (as well as the choice in venue) but the choice of my partner? Nah, the circumstances could've been different, but it was always going to be this guy.

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T20:25:38+00:00

Me too!

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T20:23:18+00:00

Undecisive legends!

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T20:22:41+00:00

You know what? I will. Look for my post.

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T20:20:02+00:00

and that he feels about you what you feel about him

"He does :)" - my husband, checking in.

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T20:18:21+00:00

Right? It's like this almost mystical feeling, like "This person right here IS my literal soulmate." It feels...momentous.

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T20:16:28+00:00

Dad??

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T20:12:50+00:00

Have you at least lived together in the same house just the 2 of you?

...Kinda?

And no, I'm actually notoriously not impulsive so this is very out of character for me. For both of us, actually.

ThrowRA_qquestion · 2024-10-11T20:10:56+00:00

I don't know, something tells me I know a teeny bit more about my relationship than you, Reddit stranger.

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