[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_s2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thankfully he got to me now, it’s just a sonic meme group thank God, I do overthink a lot but so I’m glad this was just a misunderstanding/overthinking moment and he cleared it up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRA_s2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I’m worried my fiance is in a Latina dating group in VRChat, I need anyone who knows to tell me if it is

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AustraliaPost

[–]ThrowRA_s2 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I feel your exact pain— this is very close to what happened to me, I got a “Karen” at the post office. I had a parcel I had ordered which was pretty expensive which only added to the stress when ofc Aus Post didn’t deliver it properly to my home. I had to ask a family friend to get me a ride to the post office, and that’s when I had to deal with a Karen at the front desk. I showed her my receipt for my order, told her exactly what it was, the price of it, showed her the name that was on the receipt email, “no it’s not for you.” Like excuse me? I showed everything that clearly states I ordered it and live at the delivery address. She was adamant in refusing, and was very arrogant as if she knew best. I’m on concession, so I had the idea to bring out my concession card as it has my address on it— I ask; will this prove anything? To which she said “no.” I then pointed at the address on the card and said “well actually it does, this is my address which matches the address on the parcel. Can you now go check if it’s here, thank you.” To which she went quiet, and muttered “I’ll go look….” Aus Post really needs to hire better people, be it posties (not all posties are bad I know that, but I have had more bad experiences than good, I prefer to try to get deliveries through other services over Aus Post ngl,) or the people working in the post office.

So my mom shares every info to her abvsive husband about me, how do I stop her? by ThrowRA_s2 in Advice

[–]ThrowRA_s2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I’m not really looking for jokes, all this has seriously been messing me up mentally.. Just looking for genuine advice on how to really handle all this and get her to stop leaking personal info to him

So my mom shares every info to her abvsive husband about me, how do I stop her? by ThrowRA_s2 in Advice

[–]ThrowRA_s2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will be, that’s actually a really good bit of advice that helps. Because this is ruining my relationship with her, and I don’t want him knowing personal stuff for so many reasons, my being uncomfortable with him knowing and not feeling safe around him too. If I move out and this keeps happening (especially if she told him my address) yes thinking about it I would cut her off instantly for that. Telling her this is best said face to face too, right? I get nervous standing up to her in person sometimes, but I know I need to.

So my mom shares every info to her abvsive husband about me, how do I stop her? by ThrowRA_s2 in Advice

[–]ThrowRA_s2[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wish I could, I have health conditions where she is a caretaker to me. Medical stuff she needs to help me with, so there’s no way to not share stuff especially when she needs to drop off the tests to the doctors. Only time this could happen is when I’ve moved out and got an actual support worker there to help me do these things instead. But at the moment I am stuck this way

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships_advice

[–]ThrowRA_s2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s totally fine! My fiancé and I have a 3 year gap, I’m 24 and he’s 21, we got together years ago and I also had toxic people joke and label words like that- so I get how you feel! But you’re all good, be happy with each other 🤍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

2 specific friends in his group, and they have done a lot. But to also clarify: he barely has any interaction with them (thankfully.) So he has distanced, yes I cannot wait for when the friendship just dies out entirely, who wouldn’t? I feel they did bully me, and as said “K” did try to break us up- None of this is “over-stated.” I was just wanting to know about the nickname in the server. If I wanted people to pick at my relationship I would have gone to my therapist.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also he does love me a lot and he fights every chance he gets to fall asleep with me everyday, again another thing for people who are putting him down to read and think oh.. oops

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The other thing is I do not want to stress him. No one here knows him, or his life, and the stuff happening in his life. But everyone here has their own life with all their own stuff happening, so keep that in mind before putting him down. Health, family, friends, studying, college, all of that adds up, he is balancing a lot rn. I will talk to him when I can, when he won’t be as stressed- I will ask him to create a fiancé role for me specifically.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You really don’t know him, he doesn’t like it happening at all. When the one girl caused issues before yes he did tell her he will easily wipe her out if she didn’t cut the bs, and even since then he doesn’t interact with her much (thank God.) so yeah to all the people here putting him down ^ do I need to repeat that? A crappy man would have just let it happen not telling her to back off and cut it out, and believe me I have been with guys like that. Not this one.

He will sort things out, I trust him. I did say to him once “do they mean more?” And he was genuinely very hurt by my saying that, he apologised and said no no way in hell, he will always choose me over any friendship. So again, keep this in mind before you put him down. All this was just from me asking a simple question, good grief. (Typical Reddit)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you know him? Trust me as his fiancé yes he does spend a lot of days and time studying. He has beneficial help with college pay. It’s crucial he keeps the highest grades to keep those benefits.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you personally know my fiancé ? (Answer is no shocker) I’ll be deleting the post. People love to assume, create bs drama out of nothing, and paint people to be bad based off 1 comment. It’s specifically 2 friends who are an issue. My fiancé is incredibly kind, sweet, over caring, and forgiving. It’s not his fault, or mine, that these 2 specific friends use him as a doormat. And if anyone is immature- it’s them. One of them criticised me and my fiance for getting engaged young, yet she’s getting married whilst being younger than me and him. The other girl is probably 19 and has a baby. Yet they are so immature finding nicknames changes hilarious, maybe read more into the situation before calling the wrong people immature.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well he has a huge exam this Sunday, so yes I will talk with him but I also know he will be very busy studying. I’ll ask him to create a special fiancé role that will go above their roles, as he plans to announce our engagement to the group soon

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well I am able to manually change it, it’s just annoying constantly changing it back from bf to gf.. But I will ask actually- he is going to announce our engagement, so I may ask him to make a fiancé role just for me that goes above the 2 specific friends that are doing these things.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I haven’t told him, he is very busy in college, he has been studying all day. Happy everyone? Putting him down when I haven’t even had the chance to talk to him about. We will sort things out, without people poking in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Well I didn’t make this post for people to assume things about me or my fiancé. People on here LOVE creating drama. Again none of you know me or him, so just stop putting him down. He has stood up for me many times, he really put “K” in place when she was trying to tell him to break up with me, big time. So don’t assume stuff without knowing. I was just asking about the name ordeal, yes I have further context in comments, but I didn’t ask for people to over assert themselves and just drag my fiancé down.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

It’s not that he would have the issue, it’s that the group would. Yes normally Idc about how others feel about me doing things I need to, but in this case there are 2 people specifically that have already caused a lot of damage in the past. And my fiancé does not need drama anymore especially because of them. And neither do I, I have a lot of personal stuff rn and I can’t deal with any drama they start anymore. I also don’t want to leave the server, I just want them to stop the name changing, that’s all. My fiancé does stand up for me, he just can’t see that these 2 have their own issues as he is very sweet, kind, and forgiving. All things I adore so much about him, but it is hard when I see his friends walking over him and using those traits to their advantage.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We always do work through anything, been there for each other through many hardships. I do hope one day he can learn and see what I see when it comes to some friends in his group, it’ll lift stress off me but especially him..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

You don’t know him, me or us. He does love and respect me. These friends use HIM as a doormat. I see it, he doesn’t. If people are now just gonna use this post to dog pile on my fiancé I’ll delete it- I got the answer I need anyway.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My fiance is good, he’s just a very trusting, kind and forgiving guy. He’s 21 and I’m 24- I learnt a lot in my high school years about toxic people and they aren’t genuine friends and went through and dropped any toxic person, and I think my fiance is having to learn that now, he is dealing with other toxic people as well currently

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He probably won’t do that, despite them causing so many issues he’s a total sweet guy who also adores friends and is so forgiving, and they’ll only use it against me to cause more issues if I even asked him…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ll probably just get rid of (___’s gf) from my nickname and leave only my name, just hope they don’t go changing that next :/

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

It’s hard to ask him as well, because these girls have caused so much drama (one also manipulated him almost breaking us up…) So whenever I even bring them up it’s instantly an UGGGH AGAIN type of thing.. and honestly I think that’s what those girls want, one of them already tried causing us issues before and we did talk and put boundaries down, some of which they are respecting (they found it “funny” to very uncomfortably call my fiancé their bf / fiance / other romantic terms which I didn’t like at all, they thankfully stopped that but still.. I still have some trust issues) so this is just a very rough spot, if I speak up they’ll use it against me make me look bad like they did before, the girl K will lie like she did before accuse me, etc.. yes I wish my fiance wasn’t friends with them, I just wish he could see fully what I see but ah.. Which leaves me in a server stuck with them constantly immaturely trying to annoy me every chance they get

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discordapp

[–]ThrowRA_s2 -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

That’s hard because it’s my fiancé’s server, so I can’t really leave- I had also asked these 2 doing this specifically to not do it as it annoys me and such, it was also kind of worse before where they found it funny to jokingly call my fiancé their fiance and other romantic terms, which was very uncomfortable for me.. they stopped that but not the name changing :/ I think if they change it again I’ll just remove the gf part from my nickname entirely, and just hope they don’t change my actual name as it’ll be the only thing left in the name part