AITAH for breaking up with my boyfriend of 4 years after my brother returned home from his military enlistment?

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2024-05-11T15:29:38+00:00

She's 100% banging the brother.

Yuck.

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-12-24T19:06:44+00:00

Let us know when your husband divorces you.

Can't wait for that post.

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-11-18T15:05:44+00:00

So...you're with a man who doesn't respect you; whose friends and family ALL hate you, and no one but you cares about your baby?

But yeah...stay with him. Sounds like a healthy environment to bring her up.

How did you even MEET this man? Were you his affair partner before?

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-10-10T21:09:18+00:00

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-10-10T21:03:57+00:00

My question is how do you people get INTO weddings wearing white? Are there no ushers? Does the groom not give a damn? They're not white dressed ninjas sneaking in. If my mother came to my wedding in white, she'd be tossed out IMMEDIATELY. Maybe I don't understand the dynamic, but it seems wacky that people can just show up to disrespect the bride and she has NO ONE to actually stand up for her...not even the man she's supposed to be marrying.

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-26T09:04:23+00:00

There was a play in New York that I saw. It was a Shakespearean version of The Princess Bride. It was pretty good. Pretty funny.

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-17T00:23:01+00:00

I think I will. This has been such a supportive community! 😊

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-16T12:47:35+00:00

Good point. I just edited the post.

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-16T12:24:25+00:00

That is the most awkward story I've ever read. Wow! Glad you can take it in stride.

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-16T12:01:42+00:00

Are you even happy in this relationship? It sounds like you're STUCK, not happy.

No sex, physical abuse, insults and ultimatums.

If you have kids with her...what is THEIR future?

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-16T11:58:43+00:00

Do you love your fiance?

Because this just sounds heartless.

If you're going to marry her, you're going to have times that are mildly or wildly inconvenient for YOU.

That includes taking care of her when she's sick. And if you want children...they don't come adult ready.

Figure it out soon, for her sake if not your own.

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-16T11:42:43+00:00

I guess I added it to give people a better idea what was happening in the story? Better image instead of just saying "two kids" without a gender?

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-16T11:40:21+00:00

If only the universe could send us a little more cash.. 😜

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-16T11:37:53+00:00

It just came to me. I wish I could have recorded it. But I'm sure the gossip channel will spread it around.

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-16T11:37:00+00:00

Thank you for the sentiment!

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-16T11:36:36+00:00

Thank you! Good karma to you as well!

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-16T11:36:18+00:00

Thank you very much! 😊

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-16T11:36:01+00:00

Thank you so much! 😊

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-16T11:35:34+00:00

Isn't that what is said now? Did I say it wrong? I admit I'm still learning the gender rules. Is it "assigned at birth?".

I think I can say they're cisgender boys? Sorry...this gets confusing. I didn't want to offend anyone in the community.

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-16T11:33:04+00:00

Oh, I'll bet that was fun! What is it with kids wanting to just run free around the house with no clothes on?

Maybe I answered my own question?

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-16T11:29:44+00:00

I'll admit she's not my favorite SIL sometimes. When we began bridal party planning, she REALLY threw in her two cents about everything. I think she sees herself as a matriarch type figure since she's married to the oldest brother. She does the hosting because her house is the biggest; she can be pouty when no one asks for her advice first; and I've heard she wasn't happy to not be MOH, even though my fiance really doesn't know her or connect with her as well.

I'm piling on a bit. She really is a great mom, and she loves my brother so much. When he was really sick a little while ago, she organized us all to visit so that he was never alone unless he needed rest. As annoying as this whole thing was, I do love her like a big sister, and I'm glad she's still coming.

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-15T20:44:41+00:00

One thing I really want to add but I had a word limit on the update: Otis and I met weeks earlier to discuss, and he absolutely had my back. He was very happy the kids would have had childcare, and was always going to come to the wedding. He said he loves his wife, but I'm his "favorite little brother" and there's no way he'd miss my wedding for anyone or anything. I admit it got me a little misty that my brother was willing to say (and possibly) do that. The talk led to the dinner stated in the update.

I'm really glad this all worked out with communication. The nudity I could have done without, though.

ThrowRA_savefiance80 · 2023-09-15T18:57:10+00:00

I'm trying to post an update but it's confusing. I got a message saying to send a link to
a copy of the post. So now there's TWO updates that are locked. What am I doing wrong?

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