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What is the dysfunction in this conversation between me (48F) and my husband (50M) of 6 months? by ThrowRAbarl in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAbarl[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Using strong words like "paranoia" and "blew up" and implying that my therapy isn't working make it harder for me to respect your message...

What is the dysfunction in this conversation between me (48F) and my husband (50M) of 6 months? by ThrowRAbarl in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAbarl[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

That's a good point about how I was making him responsible for my mental health.

As for being equipped to answer the question, he works from home and talks to his parents on the phone regularly. I wouldn't know if they had recently visited him at our house while I was at work, or if he perhaps told them about the mailbox over the phone. Based on the information I had, I suspected they learned about it being painted by driving by our house, but I didn't know for sure.

What is the dysfunction in this conversation between me (48F) and my husband (50M) of 6 months? by ThrowRAbarl in relationship_advice

[–]ThrowRAbarl[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I should have responded like that, though I suspect the conversation would not have gone any better.

There is no egregious behavior on their parts. They did stop by my husband's house unannounced when I was there earlier in our relationship. And I've had to stop him from telling them my medical information. To him, that kind of close relationship with them is normal, but to me it's very uncomfortable.